5 Types of Love Language - Rachel Devine

How we communicate in a relationship is crucial. Communication is the key to any successful relationship. The five love languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Not everyone communicates love in the same way, and likewise, people have different ways they prefer to receive love.

The concept of love languages was developed by Gary Chapman, Ph.D., in his book, The 5 Love Languages - The Secret to Love that Lasts, where he describes these five unique styles of communicating love.

The first step is identifying your own way of expressing and receiving love and then evaluate your partners way of expressing and receiving love, in order to have a better understanding of each other’s love language.

5 love languages

• Words of affirmation

• Quality time

• Receiving gifts

• Acts of service

• Physical touch

Let’s get started with the first love language.

Words of Affirmation

This first love language is words of affirmation. This means you express love with affirming, loving words in a relationship that expresses your love, respect, and admiration. You like to express yourself in a way that is verbal and positive and you like when your partner expresses himself in that way, because you are easily connected to this form of love language.

Words of affirmation examples:

• I love you so much

• I am proud of you

• Thank you for ______

• I am lucky to have you in my life

• You are beautiful

• You are the love of my life

Quality Time

This love language is one of spending quality time together. Spending time together makes you feel loved and you enjoy that time with your partner, as it is your way of feeling loved. People who speak the love language of quality time want to be the object of their partner’s undivided attention. They want to feel cherished and prioritized, spending meaningful time together.

Quality time examples:

• Taking a walk together

• Snuggling on the couch

• Praying together

• Cooking together

• A weekend getaway together

• A candlelight dinner

• Enjoying a cozy evening of romance

Receiving Gifts

Some people express love by showering others with gifts. This is their way of showing love. It probably stems from childhood holidays and getting and receiving gifts. Some people just love to show their love with wonderful gifts. And some people love to receive gifts as a sign of their partner’s love and affection.

Receiving gifts examples:

• Giving Flowers for no special occasion

• Extravagant gifts

• A special night on the town

• Getting concert tickets

• Buying a favorite snack at the store

• Small trinkets of hearts or love gifts

• Buying chocolates

Acts of Service

Acts of service is doing for the other partner as a way of showing love. If your partner's love language is acts of service, they feel loved when you do specific activities for them, whether they ask for this support or not. You're giving them your energy and time by doing something that makes their life easier or more enjoyable.

Acts of Service examples:

• Cleaning the house

• Your partner gets your car washed

• Gives a foot massage

• Pack them a lunch with a love note

• Plan a picnic and make the basket

• Make dinner

• Watch the children when you nap

Physical touch

Physical touch love language is expressing and receiving affection through touch, physical closeness, and other forms of physical connection. Kissing, hugging, are some ways of showing love through the physical touch love language.

Physical touch examples:

• Holding hands when in public

• Kissing and hugging

• Initiating and having sex

• Snuggling on the couch

• Giving a massage

• A warm sensual embrace

• Stroking your partners hair

  So there you have the 5 love languages. In conclusion, learning these 5 love languages gives you an edge in communicating with your partner and is the foundation for a successful and long-term connection together. I wish you much happiness in your love life.

  If you liked this blog, please pass it along to someone you think can use it, or pass it along to your partner, in order to discuss all the wonderful aspects of the 5 love languages.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road - Your Secret Journey Home & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack - Become a Magnet for True Love.

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