What is your Inner Child? Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Rachel Devine
You might ask yourself, what exactly is the Inner Child and how does it affect me? I will explain all you need to know about what the inner child is and how it affects you in this article. I will use an important excerpt from my new book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams!
The dynamics of our inner world are pretty intense. However, as I open up the nucleus of the inner child you will see how easy it really is to comprehend.
I will start from the beginning. What transpired in our childhood determines how we develop as adults. Some of the things that transpired in childhood will plague you as an adult with things like alcoholism, drug or food addictions, anger issues, intimacy issues, fear of abandonment, commitment issues, claustrophobia, sexual disorders, continuous relationship failures, workaholism, paranoid tendencies, narcissism, fears, etc. These issues get embedded in the inner child’s psyche and carries into adulthood. This all stems from the roots that took place with the inner child and what went on in your early childhood.
You might ask yourself, what exactly is the Inner Child and how does it affect me? I will explain all you need to know about what the inner child is and how it affects you in this article. I will use an important excerpt from my new book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams!
The dynamics of our inner world are pretty intense. However, as I open up the nucleus of the inner child you will see how easy it really is to comprehend.
I will start from the beginning. What transpired in our childhood determines how we develop as adults. Some of the things that transpired in childhood will plague you as an adult with things like alcoholism, drug or food addictions, anger issues, intimacy issues, fear of abandonment, commitment issues, claustrophobia, sexual disorders, continuous relationship failures, workaholism, paranoid tendencies, narcissism, fears, etc. These issues get embedded in the inner child’s psyche and carries into adulthood. This all stems from the roots that took place with the inner child and what went on in your early childhood.
Inner Child Definition:
So, what does it mean when I refer to the “Inner Child”?
The inner child is our feelings, energies, needs, vulnerabilities, experiences, our neurological imprint. Simply put, the inner child is part of your personality that still feels and acts like a child.
The inner child that developed in each of our individual childhoods is what navigates our subconscious mind and drives our decisions in life, without realizing it. The subconscious mind holds all your experiences, traumas, and family interactions. The subconscious mind is the navigator of most of your life and is very powerful. In fact, the subconscious mind is in charge of 95% of your life, that includes your actions, decisions, and pretty much all that you do in a day.
When we struggle to move forward in life, or to get out of a bad relationship, or we struggle to start a love relationship, or we cower down in arguments, all of these decisions are coming from the subconscious mind of the inner child. That imprint that was embedded in our mind at different developmental stages is ingrained in our subconscious mind and our adult intellect tries to reason with certain decisions we make, but usually will lose out to the fear or insecurity of the inner child. And most people are oblivious to this conflict that is going on within them and have no clue as to why they make certain decisions that are unhealthy for them. Make no mistake about it, when I say, “subconscious mind,” it means we are totally oblivious to what is happening in that part of our psyches.
Stages of the Inner Child
Let’s look at this in stages. There are four important developmental stages of the inner child.
The first one is the infancy stage. This is the co-dependent stage from 0 to 2 years old where we are completely dependent on our parents for survival. This is the stage where we need a lot of care, nurturing, and love. It’s a time in our lives that we depend solely on our parents for survival.
The preschool age from 2 to 4 years old is the stage of counter-dependence. This stage is often referred to as “the terrible twos.” This is a time when the child wants and needs to assert their ability to interact with their environment. The child is gaining his or her autonomy from co-dependence.
From 4 to 7 years old, is the independence stage. At this time, a child is becoming independent and doesn’t need his or her parents to do everything, and the child becomes more independent of them.
At seven years old the child is at an inter-dependence stage of being, which is much more independent from their parents than previous years, and pretty much can do most things for themselves.
All these developmental stages are a crucial time in a child’s life, and if a child does not get their fundamental needs met, there will be issues that develop later on in adulthood.
Inner Child Relationships
How we learned to love from birth to seven years old will determine our subconscious imprint that gets embedded in our brain. When we get into adulthood, we attract those people who fulfill our innermost subconscious thoughts. This imprint from childhood is what we navigate with when seeking out a partner in life. If you are wondering why you are having a hard time finding the right partner, look no further than your inner child for the answer. You can improve your love-life with some knowledge about the inner child, that will help you navigate the dating world successfully.
Example of Inner Child Tantrum:
It is important to understand the dynamics of the inner child with an example:
I will never forget this incident, which is an example of fears of abandonment from childhood. These fears develop when we don’t get our fundamental needs met, or we are emotionally abandoned by our parents because of their own dysfunctions.
I was walking my dog, Luke, at the time, and there was a white SUV stopped at the corner for the stop sign. The window was open and I could hear this man screaming at someone on the phone saying:
“You are never home, we don’t eat together anymore, you don’t cook, you are such a witch” (although he used the b word), and he was berating her.
I am sure the more he yelled and became angry the more she retreated and wanted to stay away from him. It was a vicious circle. And I thought to myself, all he wants to say to her is that he is lonely and feels abandoned and would like to spend more time with her. But I suspect his inner child, feeling hurt and being triggered by her pulling away, is setting off his fear of abandonment issues, so he is lashing out with intense anger, reverting to the way he behaved as a child. He was trying to get his needs met and she was pulling away, so his anger became out of control. The fear of abandonment starts with fear and morphs into intense anger.
This is just another example of how the inner child wreaks havoc in our relationships and is in charge and very powerful. It dictates how we behave in certain circumstances. It controls us in a way that we are totally oblivious to. It subconsciously navigates our entire life. This man screaming at his partner is just labeled as temperamental and he had no clue that what took root in childhood determines his temperament as an adult.
Another Inner Child example
I think most of us can relate to this example of road rage. When someone cuts me off on the road, I go from fear to anger in an instant. The reason is because fear from childhood rears its ugly head and the person who cut me off has triggered that fear, which usually instantly morphs to anger. I find myself sitting in my car ranting and raving about almost having an accident and in that moment my inner child is dictating my angry words and actions.
In closing, I want to say that there are ways to reprogram the subconscious mind and change the negative imprint of the inner child. You also have the power to manifest your goals and dreams with this process of reprogramming. Get a copy of my new book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within and learn the secret within that will transform your life!
Rachel Devine is the author of Discover the Power of the Secret Within, a book about the inner child and subconscious mind, The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships. All are on Amazon.
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What Force is driving your Life? The Answer will Shock you! - Rachel Devine
Each day, you make decisions and move in a certain direction in your life. Sometimes we wonder why we do certain things that cause us pain and adversity, and yet we don’t know why we make these negative decisions. At a certain point you might ask yourself, “Is my life all wrong?” Some of us may self-sabotage a perfectly good life. And others might have no luck in love. You might have no luck with overcoming an addiction, losing weight, or getting healthy. But is it luck, or is something else driving your life? Is there something within you that is steering your life in a negative direction? Well, the answer to that question is, frankly, yes! The shocking truth is that we are in control and we are not in control. Your life is being driven by a force within. I will explain what this all means and show you sure-fire ways to offset it. Let’s look at this premise more closely.
Subconscious mind
Let’s look at how the subconscious mind works. Our subconscious mind is like a giant computer memory card. It holds all your experiences, feelings, and traumas from the past. It actually holds all of your experiences. Now, many experts say that the subconscious mind drives your life 95% of the time. Therefore, the subconscious mind is in charge of your day-to-day life! When you get up each morning and make breakfast, brush your teeth, and check your emails, there is little thought given to doing these routine tasks. The subconscious mind is driving your routine. Additionally, the subconscious mind is behind the decisions you make in life. And to be very clear, the subconscious mind is not accessible to the conscious mind. In other words, you can’t detect what the subconscious mind is thinking. If you have a lot of negativity from the past and can’t move forward in life, it could be because of what was fed into your subconscious mind from the past. Make no mistake about it, the force driving your life is your subconscious mind.
Conscious mind
Let’s look at how your conscious mind works. Your conscious mind is in touch with all your thoughts, feelings, and wishes at any given moment. You can connect with this aspect of your mind. However, remember, this only drives our lives 5% of the time. So when you make a negative decision, continue to meet unacceptable potential partners, have an anger issue, or can’t lose weight, the reason behind these outcomes is locked away in the subconscious mind.
The Fix
The most logical thing to do would be to alter the subconscious mind to a positive state so your life will move in a positive direction. If you want to rid yourself of issues that are blocking you from having a great life, you must reprogram your subconscious mind. There are many techniques that can help, from inner child therapy to brainspotting, hypnosis and manifestations. These techniques help you get in touch with the subconscious mind to clear the channels in the subconscious mind for whatever is blocking your success. Clearing the channels of negativity will help your life move in a positive direction and, in a sense, help you take back some control over the direction of your life and bring you happiness.
Reprogram your subconscious mind
The easiest way to get started with reprogramming the subconscious mind is by manifestations. The most fascinating aspect of manifesting is that whatever you feed your subconscious mind will reprogram the mind so you can reach your goals and dreams. According to an expert in this field, Neville Goddard, whatever you feed the subconscious mind will eventually become form. Give that a second to sink in. In other words, the subconscious mind drives your life by 95% of the time, so it makes sense that if you feed your subconscious mind feelings on what direction you want your life to go in, then it stands to reason your life will go in that direction. The key is to put positive feelings into your subconscious mind to override the negative ones. You do have the power to transform your life! I still encourage you to get a therapist to help you with clearing parts of your subconscious mind in order to move life in a positive direction. The manifesting is just a start.
Manifesting techniques
Neville Goddard uses an example for manifesting your goals into reality. The mind is most powerful in the sleeping state, which is an unconscious state. What you feed your subconscious mind will resonate in your mind for 8 hours as you sleep. Therefore, the most powerful time to feed the subconscious mind what you want is just before you fall asleep. However, please note, the feelings that are put into your unconscious mind during sleep is what clears the subconscious mind and allows it to manifest what you want.
Here is a step-by-step guide to manifesting what you want or what you want to change:
If you want to change anger issues to one of tranquility, you will create an image of the peaceful state you want to be in as you fall asleep with the feelings of being at peace. Remember, it is the feelings that the subconscious mind picks up. That is how to manifest your dreams. You also want to envision your image as if it already happened.
For instance, if you want to manifest an event in your life, you would imagine that the event has already happened. Neville uses a person wanting a promotion as an example. The image shows a person shaking his hand to get the promotion. The feelings could be of security, value, love, and a sense of happiness. You would fall asleep with those feelings. The next day, you should wake up hopeful and positive because you fed your subconscious mind with positive feelings. Do this for at least 30 days. The power of manifesting what you want in life is unlimited. You should start to see positive changes in your life.
You can do the same process if you want to stop smoking, lose weight, or have success, basically for anything you want to obtain in life. Just put an image of let’s say how you would look if you lost weight and fall asleep with the feelings of being healthy, well-being, being happy and content.
In closing, I want to say just having the awareness that there is another aspect of your mind that drives your life is empowering. Now that you have this information, it is up to you on what you do with it. Don’t let this moment slip away with action towards healing your life. You can do this, it’s just about getting started.
I have several digital videos and guides on my website that can help you with the manifestation process. I am also available to coach you through this process.
Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, available on Amazon.