7 Ways to Attract your Soulmate Rachel Devine
Love Yourself First
Define what you Want
Release the Baggage
Understanding Chemistry
The Power of Positive Thinking
Manifesting your Soulmate
Create a Vision Board
Let’s face it, dating can be an exhausting and frustrating experience. Something as beautiful as dating has become a dreaded event. Trying to find your true love can be a daunting nightmare. Learning the dynamics of why you are not connecting with your soulmate is crucial to finding true love. After many years of research and writing my book, Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, I learned a wealth of information that I share with you.
I will show you 7 ways to attract your soulmate by using the law of attraction and the power of positive thinking to connect with your soulmate subliminal. These two powerhouse techniques are a proven way to connect with what you want in life. The law of attraction soulmate is very different than the date you connect with on a free dating sight! The soulmate secrets you will learn about have rich information to attract your soulmate. I will give you some valuable tips in soulmate attraction and reveal those precious, valuable secrets to attract your soulmate into your life.
Let’s dive right in. Here are the first three steps to attract soulmate love:
Love yourself First
Define what you want
Release the Baggage
Love yourself First
It might sound like a cliche, however, loving yourself is crucial before you can love anyone else. If you are putting yourself down constantly or resonating with self-loathing, that is what you will attract in your life. The law of attraction is pretty clear; we attract what we are. If you want to meet a kind, loving, generous man, you have to be kind, loving and generous, because the energy you put out into God’s vast universe is what will come back to you. Picture yourself in an echo chamber and you yell the word love, love comes back to you. If you yell the word, hate, hate will come back. Coming to terms with how you view yourself is an important factor to attracting your soulmate. I suggest you get a baby picture of yourself and put it where you can see it daily. Tell that baby how much you love them and resonate with loving yourself. I also suggest you go to the mirror daily and say, “I love you.” Louise Hay said that if you do that, something shifts in your physical body in 21 days that is positive. You don’t even have to mean it at first, just going through the motions will help you get to where you want to be, and that is loving yourself. Remember, we can only offer another person what we have.
Define what you Want
Knowing what you want is crucial to finding it. If you are floundering around the dating world, not sure what you want, then chances are you will never connect with it. It’s important to know what you want, then state it out loud. You are putting that energy out into the vast universe so it comes back to you, like a magnet.
Some people want to just casually date, while others might want to get into a serious relationship. Maybe you want to get married. Maybe you want to get married and have children. Perhaps you want to just meet someone who will be a friend with benefits. Maybe you just want to meet new friends. There are so many possibilities. I suggest you sit down and put some thought into exactly what you are looking for, and when you do, then say it out loud. Remember, if you can’t define what you are looking for, you will never find it.
Release the Baggage
In order to move forward it is imperative to release any baggage that accumulated from your last relationship. If you came out of a dysfunctional relationship with baggage, then you will have to come to terms with that baggage. For instance, if your ex-partner dumped you, you may be resonating with resentment and anger. Coming to terms and releasing that resentment and anger is crucial. If you don’t process the anger, it will be brought into your next relationship and be disastrous. Even if you manifest your soulmate, it will be difficult to have an healthy relationship with any kind of baggage lingering from your previous relationship. If you have any trust issues, because your ex-partner cheated, or low self-esteem because your ex-partner was verbally abusive, or a slew of other dysfunctional emotions, you must process them before moving forward. I suggest thinking honestly about your last relationship and what baggage came out of it, and then working on processing and releasing the baggage. You can do that with a therapist or a good self-help book. The key is having awareness and then working on the issues before you advance to connecting with your soulmate. Putting the work into will reap wonderful benefits.
Understanding Chemistry
The Power of Positive thinking
Manifesting your Soulmate
The Mystery of Chemistry
Most single people will not even consider a second date unless there is a high intensity chemistry. Additionally, I have seen many profiles where single people specify, “I am looking to find someone with great chemistry.” Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but love chemistry is quite toxic. Yes, you read that right, it is toxic. I will explain this.
Have you ever been mesmerized by a man/woman you just met? Is it merely infatuation, a strong shot of chemistry, or budding love: the real thing? Actually, infatuation and chemistry are essentially the same thing. And they are a very, very long way from real love.
Chemistry or infatuation is actually an attraction to a person who combines the following personality traits:
The worst traits of our parents or childhood caretakers to infatuate us.
The negative traits that infatuate us and we possess but deny in ourselves.
The traits that we find infatuating but have been repressed in us by our upbringing.
Here is what all the above means. The person who infatuates me is, in fact, the last thing I consciously want. So, be cautious when you meet someone who reminds you of your mother or father. We all seek our “Imago,” an unconscious image of the person our childhood programmed us to fall in love with, or become infatuated with. The Imago is like a homing device that drives us to repeat ourselves, choosing over and over the facsimiles of our caretakers' worst traits. When we find ourselves saying, "You're just like my father or mother," this person who infatuates us is our Imago match.
According to an expert in this field, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., he wrote the following:
“The Latin word “imago”—meaning “image”—refers to the “unconscious image of familiar love.” What we find is that there is frequently a connection between frustrations in adult relationships and early childhood experiences. As an example, individuals frequently criticized as a child will likely be highly sensitive to their partner’s criticism. Childhood feelings of abandonment, suppression or neglect will often arise in a marriage or committed relationship.
When such “core issues” repeatedly come up with a partner, they can overshadow all that is good in a relationship and leave one to wonder whether he or she has chosen the right mate.”
For example, a man who is seeking a submissive woman, just like his mom, seeks out a woman with similar traits. They unexpectedly meet and infatuation captivates him. Why? He is unconsciously attracted to the way the woman is speaking, or the way she raises her eyebrows, or perhaps she is very submissive and agreeable, or her smile is captivating, just like Mom. They start a conversation and infatuation strikes them both. She is unconsciously attracted to his dominance and air of authority, which equates to the fact that he reminds her of her father, a hard-nosed ex-Marine, the one she could never please because of his dysfunctional character defect of perfectionism. He securely puts his arm around her; she nestles her head on his shoulder. Together they contemplate true love and happiness forever. Is this love? No, this is full blown chemistry!
Some of us also seek an Imago who possesses traits of our “denied self.” These are negative personality traits from our parents that we cannot see, or want to recognize in our own behavior. The perfectionism the woman perceives in this new budding love interest is the same perfectionism as her father, and she subconsciously feels an attraction to it.
By choosing a partner with the traits we deny in ourselves, such as compassion or aggression, we can rob these traits from our new partner and be a whole person without having to take responsibility for aspects of ourselves that are lacking. We seek out those traits in another person that have been buried and repressed in ourselves.
Love has to develop over time, and is not something that happens in an instant, or a week, or even a few months. So, give your relationship time to settle into a long-lasting commitment and give a person a chance for a second date, even if there is no chemistry. Remember a little chemistry is fine, it becomes toxic when it’s high intense chemistry.
I hope you are not disappointed in the reality of the mystery of chemistry. Also, what happens if you are head over heels over someone with high intense chemistry and the other person is not? I read many years ago if this happens head for the hills and never look back. This can only cause pain for you.
It is better to be empowered with this knowledge than to waste any more time trying to find the person who resonates with you on a toxic level. This is just a small glimpse into the fascinating world of toxic chemistry. I imagine this information has given you much to ponder. It has given me new insights and a different perspective than I had prior to doing the research on chemistry. I am now on red alert when it comes to feeling that amazing chemical high with anyone, because my rational thinking goes right out the window.
The Power of Positive Thinking
Norman Vincent Peale was a pioneer in the area of positive thinking. In fact, he wrote a book called, The Power of Positive Thinking. His theory was that if you can imagine in full details what you want to manifest in your life, and keep that picture firm in your head daily, then you can materialize it into the physical world.
He gave an example in the book about how this husband wanted a divorce but his wife didn’t. Every night she would visualize him being in the chair next to her and having a conversation in their living room. Her husband stayed out of the house a lot, however, that did not deter her from keeping this visual of her husband being in the same room and in that living room chair. She did this visual daily. After a few months, her husband had a sudden turn around and told her he didn’t want the divorce. There was no explanation. When she asked about the divorce, he said, “what divorce?” And his wife was pleasantly surprised.
Now, this might sound very generic, however, this is how the power of positive thinking works. You hold a visual of what you want to manifest and you keep it in your head for a short time every day. Of course, other factors have to be in place, like putting yourself out there to meet someone. As they say, you will never meet anyone sitting in your living room on a Saturday night watching reruns of the Golden Girl’s.
Another factor is resonating with the same traits as you want in a partner, loving yourself and putting out kind energy into the world. You can’t be nasty to the baker in the morning and then charming to a date in the evening. Your mood has to be consistent.
Manifesting your Soulmate
At this point, manifesting your soulmate is getting more and more obtainable if you followed the previous steps. Everything in life is a process and knowing the right path is priceless. In order to manifest your soulmate, you have to define this person. Write down what they look like and all the wonderful assets you would like, from a great sense of humor, to trusting, kind, generous, loving, articulate, attentive and so on. Once you write out all the things you are looking for in a partner, you have brought this game-plan to a written intention that you can send out into the vast universe. You can do this by reading your list out loud. A written intention is powerful beyond anyone’s imagination, if coupled with the power of positive thinking.
Now you put the intention out into God’s vast universe, you want to picture this person daily with a visual. Perhaps it’s a visual of one where you are meeting or together. Keep the same visual daily, like the woman did with her husband who thought he wanted a divorce. These steps can cause miraculous results. One more important factor in manifesting your soulmate, is you have to believe in the process. It’s not as effective if you go through the motions without feeling it will happen. In fact, feelings are part of the manifesting process.
Imagine a time in your life when you were totally in love. Or a time you were with a partner and you were in a blissful, happy state. Now take that wonderful feeling of being in love or extremely happy. Attach those wonderful, blissful feelings onto the visual you have and stay with that feeling. It can be a 5-minute visual or longer.The imporant thing is to do it daily.
One other factor is your story. If you are resonating with this story, “I am too old, I will never meet my soulmate.” Or this story, “All my friends are married with children, it will never happen for me.” If you are resonating with any kind of negative story, you will just attract more negative situations.
The key is to FLIP your story around. Change it to, “People my age meets their soulmate all the time and so will I.” Or flip it to this story. “All my friends are married with children and I will meet my soulmate soon and have my own love story.”
It is imperative to resonate with a positive life story, in any situation in life, whether you want to lose weight or buy a house or get a new job. Having a positive story brings much grace and postive results into your life.
Create a Vision Board
The last step is a powerful way to create the next chapter of your life by creating a vision board. A vision board is a written intention of great power. You can use construction paper or thin board and use symbols, stickers, words and/or pictures that resonate for what you want your future to look like. My experience with creating vision boards is that around 90% of my vision will manifest at a certain point.
Here is an example of a vision board. You can create a personalized one just for you. You can find more examples online.
It’s important to remember that we have an amazing ability to navigate our lives in a positive direction by our positive thoughts, words and written intention. Every word you think, every word you speak and what you write down are all collaborating to navigate the direction of your life. Think of this as an inner compass. That inner compass is powered by your thoughts and words, and this compass is within your subconscious mind, which has total control of the direction your life goes in, whether you know it or not. Our subconscious mind was programmed in childhood and even though you are not in touch with those thoughts and feelings, it is the commander of your life. Hidden deep in the recess of your mind is a wealth of experiences and events that have taken place, that navigates what direction your life is going in. Having enough awareness to recognize this aspect of yourself is an accomplishment most will not get in a lifetime. Use this information to navigate your journey in life, after all it is your journey.
Creating a vision board programs your subconscious mind to go in the direction of your vision. The success rate of vision boards are astounding.
Current statistics available are only on small businesses. However, the results are very positive.
A survey by TD bank has revealed the following:
Almost two-thirds of small business owners believe that visualizing goals helps them map and develop their business plans.
One in five small business owners used a vision board or other visual representation when starting their business; 76% of those business owners said that today their business is where they envisioned it would be when they started it.
Eighty-two percent of small business owners that used a vision board from the get-go reported that they have accomplished more than half the goals they included on that
From my own experience with my vision boards, I would say that 85% of what I put on there has come to fruition. These were a variety of visions from business, to travel, to being happy, good health and to attract my soulmate.
If you look back on your life, you may see patterns of events that make sense now. You may see times of negativity that reaped more negative happenings, as well as positive times in your life that created positive experiences. Whatever direction your life goes in, I wish you much peace, joy and fulfillment.
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