Inner Child Healing: How it Can Transform your Life! Rachel Devine

You may view inner child healing as something from the 90s that John Bradshaw promoted that is no longer relevant. You may also think that you are exempt from any inner child dysfunctions. I can tell you that you are just as influenced by inner child as the next person.

If you answer yes to any of these questions, you are definitely influenced by the inner child.

Are you unable to lose weight?

Do you have ongoing issues with relatives?

Do you have an inner critic telling you negative thoughts?

Do you have major problems in a relationship?

Are you in the dilemma of alcoholism in any way?

Are you chronically depressed?

Are your thoughts negative most of the time?

If you said yes to any of these, you definitely are influenced by the inner child. In fact, to be perfectly honest, we all have some inner child issues to one extent or another. Some of us are more advanced in the dysfunction department than others. Nonetheless, after all my research into the inner child, I can say with certainty that we are all affected in one way or another by the inner child.

Let’s look into this in a more defined way.

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The following is an excerpt from my new book, Discover the Power within - Healing your Inner child to Manifest your Dreams:

Chapter One - Inner Child Dynamics

The dynamics of our inner world are pretty intense. However, as I open up the nucleus of the inner child you will see how easy it really is to comprehend. 

I will start from the beginning. What transpired in our childhood determines how we develop as adults. Some of the things that transpired in childhood will plague you as an adult with things like alcoholism, drug or food addictions, anger issues, intimacy issues, fear of abandonment, commitment issues, claustrophobia, sexual disorders, continuous relationship failures, workaholism, paranoid tendencies, narcissism, fears, etc. These issues get embedded in the inner child’s psyche and carries into adulthood. This all stems from the roots that took place with the inner child and what went on in your early childhood. 

So, what does it mean when I refer to the “Inner Child”? 

The inner child is our feelings, energies, needs, vulnerabilities, experiences, our neurological imprint. Simply put, the inner child is part of your personality that still feels and acts like a child. 

The inner child that developed in each of our individual childhoods is what navigates our subconscious mind and drives our decisions in life, without realizing it. The subconscious mind holds all your experiences, traumas, and family interactions. The subconscious mind is the navigator of most of your life and is very powerful. In fact, the subconscious mind is in charge of 95% of your life, that includes your actions, decisions, and pretty much all that you do in a day. As we move along in the book, this will become clearer to you.

When we struggle to move forward in life, or to get out of a bad relationship, or we struggle to start a love relationship, or we cower down in arguments, all of these decisions are coming from the subconscious mind of the inner child. That imprint that was embedded in our mind at different developmental stages is ingrained in our subconscious mind and our adult intellect tries to reason with certain decisions we make, but usually will lose out to the fear or insecurity of the inner child. And most people are oblivious to this conflict that is going on within them and have no clue as to why they make certain decisions that are unhealthy for them. Make no mistake about it, when I say, “subconscious mind,” it means we are totally oblivious to what is happening in that part of our psyches.

Let’s look at this in stages. There are four important developmental stages of the inner child.

The first one is the infancy stage. This is the co-dependent stage from 0 to 2 years old where we are completely dependent on our parents for survival. This is the stage where we need a lot of care, nurturing, and love. It’s a time in our lives that we depend solely on our parents for survival. 

The preschool age from 2 to 4 years old is the stage of counter-dependence. This stage is often referred to as “the terrible twos.” This is a time when the child wants and needs to assert their ability to interact with their environment. The child is gaining his or her autonomy from co-dependence. 

From 4 to 7 years old, is the independence stage. At this time, a child is becoming independent and doesn’t need his or her parents to do everything, and the child becomes more independent of them.  

At seven years old the child is at an inter-dependence stage of being, which is much more independent from their parents than previous years, and pretty much can do most things for themselves.

All these developmental stages are a crucial time in a child’s life, and if a child does not get their fundamental needs met, there will be issues that develop later on in adulthood.

How we learned to love from birth to seven years old will determine our subconscious imprint that gets embedded in our brain. When we get into adulthood, we attract those people who fulfill our innermost subconscious thoughts. This imprint from childhood is what we navigate with when seeking out a partner in life.

That is the end of the excerpt. Our relationships are dictated by our subconscious imprint, so if you keep meeting the same dysfunctional people in the dating world, now you have a reason for it. Furthermore, as you can see from this information, our inner child and subconscious mind drives our life 95 % of the time. It is terrifying to know that our life decisions are driven by this dual force that was formed throughout our childhood. The important thing to know is that we can change the subconscious imprint with some easy techniques. Changing the imprint, changes the dynamics of the subconscious and in turn transforms lives. I go into specific details in my book in a step by step manner on how to change the subconscious imprint to ultimately enable one to manifest their dreams into reality. Afterall, if the subconscious is driving our life, then we want it to go in a positive and successful direction.

For more information please visit my website that has an array of free resources, as well as my books and online courses, that all have instant downloads for you to explore.

Rachel Devine is the author of her new inner child book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within, along with The Third Road and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, all on Amazon.

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