Breaking the Cycle: Overcoming Depression Rooted in Childhood Trauma - Rachel Devine

You might be wondering why your life doesn’t seem to be as happy as you want it to be. You might be fighting depression and feelings of hopelessness and may not even know where these feelings are coming from. Unfortunately, our subconscious mind holds almost all emotions from everything that happened in the past and does unleash it’s negativity onto our lives in the present without any notice. It's increasingly recognized that childhood trauma and adverse experiences can have a profound effect on mental health later in life, often manifesting as depression in adulthood. The impact of emotional neglect, abuse, the loss of a parent, domestic violence, or other traumatic events can create long-lasting psychological wounds and negative core beliefs about oneself.

Let’s take a look at these inner child wounds and ways to recover from the negativity from the past to alleviate the depression that may be plaguing you in the present time.

Overcoming depression!

How Childhood Trauma Leads to Adult Depression

Traumatic childhood events can lead to complex feelings from the past of shame and insecurity, and a lack of self-worth that persist long after the trauma occurred. Past inner child wounds can also cause depression, hopelessness and a feeling of self-loathing, just to name a few. This inner critic and negative self-talk increases vulnerability to anxiety and clinical depression over time. It’s important to recognize the inner negativity that may creep up on your day in the form of negative self-talk. The deep seated wounds are in the subconscious mind and drive your life. The key is to try to reverse the negative past to a positive present moment.

Healing childhood trauma!

Healing Childhood Trauma to Overcome Depression

While the impact of childhood trauma runs deep, there is hope for healing and undoing the mental anguish and depressive symptoms rooted in the past. Again, the key is to work on the subconscious mind where the trauma is stored. Some powerful techniques include the following:

Inner Child Work—visualizations, inner child letter writing, and reparenting your inner child through work and internal family systems therapy—can rematrix core childhood wounds. Inner-child healing is possible with some effort. Nurturing your inner child is key to healing the wounds from childhood.

EMDR Therapy: Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is an evidence-based therapy using bilateral brain stimulation to reprocess and resolve traumatic memories.

Cognitive Behavioral Techniques: CBT helps identify and change negative thought patterns, core beliefs, and cognitive distortions stemming from adverse childhood events.

Trauma-Focused Therapies: Other top modalities include prolonged exposure therapy, emotion-focused therapy, and accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), which foster emotional release and new experiences of feeling safe and secure.

Mindfulness Practices: Mindfulness meditation, self-compassion work, and practices cultivating self-love help quiet the inner critic and build emotional resilience.

Positive affirmations: Feeding yourself positive affirmations is a way to manifest change for the subconscious to a positive, which holds the trauma and negative experiences. Keep telling yourself you are worthy, you are loved, you are valued, and you are loveable. Saying I love you daily to yourself is a positive affirmation that is valuable to healing old childhood wounds of perhaps not feeling so loved.

Brainspotting: Brainspotting is a way to clear the subcortical brain, better known as the subconscious, of negative experiences from the past. Brainspotting can penetrate the subconscious and clear the mind of trauma from the past.

Somatic Therapy: Body-oriented approaches like somatic therapy can help resolve trapped trauma in the body. Breathwork, sensorimotor psychotherapy, massages and other mind-body practices promote healing.

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It’s important to recognize that most depression has roots in childhood trauma and negative experiences. This awareness is crucial to inner healing. With patience, commitment to the inner work, and the right therapeutic approach, it is possible to break the cycle—replacing depressive core beliefs with self-compassion and self-love, which will assist in undoing the impacts of childhood adversity—to alleviate the depression and get back to being happy again.

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Inner Child Healing Techniques for Emotional Wounds - Rachel Devine

Life has its ups and downs and peaks and valleys. It’s all part of the journey. However, when life becomes more of a burden than a joy, it’s time to take back your life. The center of our adversity often lies in the fact that we have some unfinished business from the past. This unfinished business can creep into our lives in unexpected ways. It usually comes in the form of anger, fear, or mistrust towards a situation or people in our lives. The inner child is usually at the center of the negative emotions that comes out when we least expect it.

There are many negative emotions that come out of childhood. However, let’s take a look at these 3 prominent emotions and see how we can connect them to the inner child healing techniques:

Inner child anger

Inner-child anger is when you have unresolved anger from childhood. This can stem from your parents not being there for you emotionally, or perhaps from getting shamed or bullied. Some people carry around resentments and anger for years from their inner child wounds. Unfortunately, the anger is lying dormant until it is activated by a trigger. A trigger is an emotion come from a past memory and reminds us of a childhood wound. All of a sudden, out of the blue, the anger erupts like a pandora’s box from the past just flipped open. All of this is done on an unconscious level, since our locked emotions are in the subconscious mind, where we don’t have conscious access to.

Inner Child Fear

Inner child fear works in the same way anger does. There is some fear from childhood that was unresolved, and it sits dormant in our subconscious mind. During a trigger, fear erupts. I will give you an example from my own situation when a trigger brought on intense fear.

When I was 7 years old, my grandmother suddenly died. We went to the funeral, and her coffin was open. I remember my mother and her siblings going past the coffin and kissing my grandmother. My mother motioned for me to come to the coffin. I stood in the back of the church, alone and feeling petrified from fear. I was so afraid I would be forced to go up to the coffin. Now, fast forward to 2018, when my beloved and best friend, Luke, who was my Siberian husky, died. His death triggered the incident in the church with my grandmother, and I was filled with fear—the same petrified fear I felt as I stood alone in the back of the church as my mother was beckoning me to go up to the coffin. That was an unresolved fear from childhood that was buried in my subconscious mind, which suddenly erupted when my dog passed away. Thankfully, I was able to work through the intense fear with a very knowledgeable therapist.

Inner Child Mistrust

Again, the same premise applies to inner child mistrust. When a child is in a situation where they were perhaps sexually abused, had parents who were addicts who were not present, or just parents who could not provide a safe living space, this all creates a mistrusting nature. Additionally, it brings on the other two emotions of anger and fear. This can cause havoc in all forms of relationships, from romantic to friendships.

Let’s explore the following 7 inner child healing techniques:

Recognize your inner child through journaling

In order to heal the inner child wounds from the past, the first step is to recognize your inner child as a real part of your life. It is also important to recognize the patterns and what transpired in your childhood. Try to look back on your childhood and identify areas where you may have developed anger, fear, or mistrust. I suggest you look at any issues in your present life and look back on your childhood and journal about any patterns you find. Then, when you have the pattern in place, do some more journaling on how you felt in the past and how you feel now. Trying to recognize a pattern from an incident in childhood that relates to an incident in adulthood is a good starting point. Journaling is a great way to get in touch with your feelings.

Go back to your childhood

The second inner child technique is to go back to an incident in your childhood where your inner child needed support and love. You can go back in time through your imagination and visualization. You can visualize on a time in your life when you really needed someone to be there for you during times of anger, fear, or mistrust. Just sit and put yourself in the scene of what transpired, and be the parent to your inner child. You can speak soothing words to your inner child or hug your inner child in your imagination. This will bring amazing healing and comfort to your inner child. The more you comfort your inner child, the fewer the triggers will be in the future. If you can do this often, you will find some peace with your past.

Feel the feelings

You have to sit with the feelings. It doesn’t feel good to get wrapped up in anger or fear from the past, but it’s crucial to healing. When you sit with your inner child, embrace the emotions. It will help you heal. The only way to heal is to feel the pain from the past and then let it go. It’s a natural process of letting go. You can envision putting the emotion in a balloon and watching it drift away into the sky. Or handing the emotion over to God or your Higher Power.

Lean on your faith

Lean on your Higher Power, or God. It’s important to have a spiritual entity you trust and love to be there with you through this healing process. Stay in prayer, meditate, or light some candles, and stay in faith. Faith is important when one is feeling uneasy. Faith is a guiding light that comforts us in times of vulnerability.

Inner Child Affirmations

Use positive affirmations like "I am worthy of love" or "I deserve to feel safe" or “You are safe and I will take care of you.” This will help to reprogram limiting beliefs from childhood. Visualize the words sinking into your inner child’s heart. Using positive affirmations is a great way to reprogram the subconscious mind to a positive state. It’s also a great way to reparent your inner child.

Inner Child props

Use drawings, photos, or objects to symbolize and interact with your inner child in an experiential reparenting process. You can put a picture of yourself as a child where you can see it daily. Use the picture to tell your inner child how loved he/she is and how much you are going to be there for him or her.

Seek professional help

It is important to get professional help from a therapist or a life coach who specializes in inner child healing. Having someone to bounce off emotions is crucial since unlocking the anger and fear from childhood can be overwhelming. It’s imperative to get a good therapist to help you with this journey. The benefits will far outweigh the emotional pain you may feel from unlocking the inner child. Trauma is usually at the core of our inner child wounds. There are several techniques a good therapist can use to help you.

Many types of therapy are useful for trauma. Some examples of trauma therapy include:

• Brainspotting

• Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)

• Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR)

These different techniques can help you with inner child pain in one session. For instance, brainspotting can unlock different negative emotions and trauma from the subconscious mind. Once the trauma is cleared, the fear or anger associated with it also dissipates. However, there are usually layers to unlock, like peeling an onion, so be patient with the process.

In closing, I want to emphasize that these inner child techniques are just suggestions and do not replace professional therapy; they enhance professional therapy. I have used these techniques, and they do work. I have also used therapy to help with inner child wounds. Remember, inner child work is emotionally messy, and you may feel more angry or fearful, but with patience and continued work, you will come out on the other side with a liberated emotional state of happiness and joy.

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Take the Inner Child Quiz for Healing: Step by Step Audio Guide - Rachel Devine

Each one of us has something in life that keeps us from moving forward or perhaps negatively impacts our relationships, or keeps us hostage in our addictions or obsessions. This would include food addictions, as well as drugs and alcohol.

Inner healing starts with recognizing our inner child wounds. I can confidently say we all have some inner child wounds that fester within us, sometimes for many years. These inner wounds continue to cause negative patterns that are destructive to our lives. The key to healing is to know what you need to heal from. The inner child quiz has 12 pertinent questions that can help you access your own inner child wounds. Furthermore, each answer to the questions will give you a good idea on what area you actually need healing.

Take the inner child quiz. This is the quiz on my website. Or you can take the inner child test with my audio guide below.

Once you take the quiz there are several ways you can start your inner healing. One way is to get my new book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. You can get an instant ebook download. My book gives a step by step guide to inner child healing.

You can also consider my life coaching, full details on this link.

Or get my free guide to start your healing, How to Heal your Inner Child - 7 Step Video Guide.

And of course a good therapist that deals with inner child issues would be helpful.

The inner child quiz is on the audio link below. If you have any questions, please contact me.

The suggestions on this audio and in this blog are just that, suggestions. The author is not responsible for the outcome and always recommends therapy for those that need it.

Take the Inner Child Quiz - Rachel Devine

Taking an inner child quiz can be the first step towards identifying and healing emotional wounds from your past. Studies show that a surprising number of adults experience the lingering effects of childhood trauma and stress. Unresolved issues from our early years often manifest in adulthood through struggles like addiction, anxiety, depression, and relationship conflicts. However, most people do not correlate inner child wounds with present day issues like depression and addictions. Furthermore, most people don’t even believe in the inner child factor. This is unfortunate because so much clarity and healing can be revealed with some foreknowledge. Let’s look at this in a comprehensive manner before embarking on an inner child quiz.

Finding the source of dysfunction

Addictions, anger issues, chronic fears, anger issues, and other adult dysfunctions frequently arise from childhood emotional wounds around topics like self-worth, security, and emotional needs not being met. Tracing back to the origins provides clarity and focus for unraveling these patterns. It sheds light on the actual patterns from childhood, helping one understand the root cause of their adult issues.

Statistics on Inner Child Wounds

Studies show 60% of adults of adults report experiencing abuse or other difficult family circumstances during
childhood. 26% of children will witness or experience a traumatic event before they turn four. About one-quarter of adults experience three or more adverse childhood experiences that can lead to emotional trauma.

A 2019 Harris poll found that 64% of American adults have inner child wounds that affect their happiness. The most common wound stemmed from emotional neglect, reported by 19% of adults.

These are just a few fascinating statistics on inner child wounds and their impact on adulthood can be more devastating than the original infraction!

Why Our Inner Child Impacts Our Adult Selves

Unmet childhood needs like connection, safety, validation, trust, and love often are the culprit behind our inner child wounds and resurface through some of the following issues:

● Addictive behaviors like alcoholism, drug abuse, gambling, and unhealthy attachments that fill a void or numb painful feelings from childhood on a subconscious level.

● Anxiety and depression result from core feelings of not being good enough, blaming oneself, and struggling with vulnerability.

● Anger issues are tied to growing up feeling unimportant, criticized, threatened, bullied, or powerless.

● Relationship problems due to difficulties with trust, communication, empathy, and respect—all learned in childhood.

These are just some dysfunctions that branch out of our early childhood. Identifying and nurturing your inner child’s unresolved wounds through self-discovery, counseling, therapy or support groups can help you form healthier, happier relationships and break detrimental, repeated cycles traced back to the past. The key to healing the inner child wounds is to recognize the patterns from childhood. The only way to recognize these patterns is to do the inner child work. The benefits of a potential healthy life without addiction or depression is far worth the work invested in your inner child healing. However, it all starts with awareness.

Benefits of Taking an Inner Child Quiz

Awareness happens with a little effort. If you take an inner child quiz you will have increased self-awareness. Understanding your inner child can help you recognize recurring destructive patterns that originated in childhood. An inner child quiz strips away rationalizations and makes you tune into core emotional triggers. It can also help you by pointing out your emotional wounds. Quizzes help uncover specific childhood events or dynamics that shaped your coping mechanisms and beliefs about yourself and the world. Identifying these root causes paves the way for healing. Living in an oblivious state and not understanding why certain core issues are coming from is unfortunate.

In closing, the key to happiness in life is to be aware of the origin of our present day issues. In understanding the patterns from childhood, one is empowered to heal from inner child wounds. The first step to any healing is becoming aware of the problem that needs to be healed. An inner child quiz is the first step to healing.

Take the inner child quiz here.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

Amazon review: The book really got deep on how our subconscious mind works and how important it is to not fall into the negativities and train yourself to think positive always . I really enjoyed it and it was very inspirational and really broadened my knowledge of how our minds work . I really recommend it ! Tina

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Healing Through Shadow Work: Addressing Inner Childhood Trauma - Rachel Devine

Many people carry pain and wounds from childhood trauma that manifest in unhealthy ways. These adult issues come out of left field like anger issues, resentments, shame and fears. Shadow work offers a path to heal these old hurts by embracing the shadow self. There are several ways it helps people process suppressed trauma and restore wholeness. Let’s explore inner child shadow work and how it releases inner child trauma.

What is shadow work?

The "shadow self" refers to aspects of ourselves that we deny or suppress—emotions, needs, desires, and beliefs that feel unacceptable. Shadow work is the practice of bringing conscious awareness to these suppressed parts so they no longer control one's life unconsciously. Trauma gets stored in the subconscious and it’s important to release that trauma in order for its hold on you to vanish.

Shadow work typically includes exercises such as journaling, meditation, and creative expression like art to explore one's repressed thoughts and emotions. By facing the shadow and bringing it out to the light, one can release these neglected parts of themselves and regain power, creativity, and wholeness.

Processing Trauma Through Shadow Work

When children experience trauma—abuse, neglect, loss, or overly critical environments—they adopt coping strategies to survive. This often requires suppressing vulnerability, needs, or feelings to avoid further hurt. These feelings could include anger and fear that get pushed down into the child’s mind without processing the feelings.

Shadow work helps shine light upon these long-buried hurts harbored by one's inner child self so they can be grieved, expressed, and healed consciously. This reduces their control over one's life and helps release them from the subconscious mind. Shadow work can help with inner child healing.

Common inner child shadow techniques

• Inner child dialogues: Expressing suppressed emotions and needs and reparenting one's inner child with compassion.

• Identifying negative core beliefs and rewriting empowering mantras.

• Free writing and art therapy to uncover buried memories and feelings.

• Exploring emotional triggers and their roots in childhood experiences.

• Active imagination: having inner child self-guided visualization.

By gently bringing traumatic memories, emotions, and beliefs into present awareness, they lose their grip over someone. Old survival coping strategies of disassociation or repression give way to embracing grief, vulnerability, and authenticity.

Is shadow work effective for healing trauma?

Research into shadow work remains limited, but psychologists believe exploring the shadow can lead to transformative personal growth and trauma recovery. Case studies show individuals report renewed senses of self-love, personal empowerment, and emotional resilience. Please note, it is imperative to find a therapist that specializes in inner child healing for you to deal with this type of shadow work.

Cindy's Story: Releasing Inner Childhood Pain

Cindy suffered low self-esteem, defensiveness, and fear of intimacy after being severely criticized in childhood. Through her therapist, she wrote letters expressing the feelings and needs buried inside her inner child self that she had long repressed.

She visualized dialogues where she could now meet these needs for love and safety as an adult with her own self-love. Releasing years of shame and grief led Cindy to embody greater compassion towards herself and others. Her self-sabotaging behaviors diminished, and her relationships dramatically improved as she integrated her once-wounded inner child's pain through shadow work.

Conclusion

Shadow work allows people to address the root causes of emotional wounds within the inner child. By compassionately releasing that which lies in darkness, profound healing and empowerment can occur. Further research is still needed, but the evidence and case studies suggest this can transform traumatic childhood pain into greater authenticity and wholeness. Of course, it’s imperative to enlist a good therapist who specializes in inner child shadow work, in order to get the full benefits of healing inner child wounds.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

Amazon review: The book really got deep on how our subconscious mind works and how important it is to not fall into the negativities and train yourself to think positive always . I really enjoyed it and it was very inspirational and really broadened my knowledge of how our minds work . I really recommend it ! Tina

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Inner Child Therapy Techniques for Healing Rachel Devine

Inner child therapy is a form of psychotherapy that aims to heal the wounds and trauma experienced in childhood. It is based on the belief that everyone has an "inner child" within them that stores all the emotions, fears, beliefs, and memories from childhood. Addressing and healing the inner child can lead to profound changes in one's emotional wellbeing and ability to have healthy relationships. Research has shown that inner child pain is lodged in the body in a physical and emotional way. It makes sense, at a certain point, to address the pain and release it from the body.

Let’s explore different therapies for inner child wounds.

Inner child therapy techniques

Inner child therapy uses a range of techniques to access memories, feelings, and beliefs stored in the inner child. These include guided visualization, journaling, drawing, role-playing, and dialogues between one's adult self and inner child self.

The therapist helps the client tune into repressed or suppressed emotions from childhood and express them in a safe, contained way. This allows the client to address core childhood wounds such as neglect, abuse, loss, criticism, and worthlessness that may still be negatively impacting them today. Expressing the feelings and needs of the inner child that were not met in childhood is profoundly cathartic. Many addictions stem from the inner child void within, that gets addictively filled with either food, alcohol, drugs, working long hours, etc. Inner child therapy is imperative to get to the root of the problem and bring it out into the open where it can lose its hold on you.

The therapist then helps the client nurture and care for the inner child through love, validation, understanding, and reassurance. This helps re-parent and heal the inner child of old shame, fears, or distorted beliefs. Clients discover how to meet their inner child's unmet needs from within themselves. They learn to cultivate self-love, self-acceptance, and healthy boundaries.

Brainspotting

Brainspotting is an experienced technique that brings past emotions and trauma from the subconscious mind to the surface and then it releases the trauma from the body. This is a very effective technique for inner child healing. Additionally, it takes very little time to clear out destructive childhood thoughts that get embedded in the subconscious mind. You can learn more about brainspotting on this link.

Effectiveness of Inner Child Therapy

Research shows that inner child therapy can lead to significant reductions in anxiety, depression, interpersonal difficulties, and insecure attachment. Clients report increased self-esteem, self-compassion, emotional resilience, and the ability to have intimate relationships after inner child healing.

Inner child therapy allows people to rewrite limiting beliefs, detach from the pain of the past, and develop a strong, self-centered sense of self. Transformational personal growth can occur as people peel away layers of protective armor built around the wounded inner child. It is possible to transform your life.

Finding an Inner Child Therapist

It is important to find an inner child therapist who utilizes a holistic, gentle approach. Look for those trained in attachment theory, brainspotting, gestalt therapy, or psychedelic integration. Avoid therapies that force clients to relive trauma in an abrupt manner without adequate support.

Group therapy with other inner child healing clients can provide additional support. However, one-on-one therapy forms the core foundation for safely uncovering deep wounds before group sharing. Research different options and read client testimonials to find the right fit.

The inner child lives within all of us, waiting to be healed. Inner child therapy facilitates this profound healing, allowing people to live with much greater freedom, joy, and authenticity. It takes courage to face your inner wounds, but it can lead to incredible self-awareness and personal transformation.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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How to Overcome Abandonment Issues from Childhood. - Rachel Devine

Fears arise in adulthood from our inner child experiences. These fears can stop one from moving forward in many areas of life, but especially in relationships. Abandonment fears, such as an excessive need for closeness and panic about rejection, often originate from childhood abandonment issues. Early experiences profoundly shape our attachment styles and ability to trust in relationships. When you start a relationship with someone and they suddenly stop calling or texting you, intense fear may set in. That fear is what comes from the inner child being triggered by some childhood incident of abandonment from the past and has traveled into your adulthood. Some fears are from emotional or physical childhood abandonment. Let’s look into this a little deeper.

How Childhood Abandonment Fears Develop

Many factors can contribute to an insecure-anxious attachment pattern, but here are a few examples:

• Physical abandonment by a parent through death, divorce, or neglect.

• Emotional unavailability from a depressed, addicted, or distracted caregiver.

• Harsh, conditional love that makes a child feel worthless and unlovable.

• Unpredictable care that keeps a child perpetually anxious about being alone.

• Being put in a group home and taken away from your family.

• Living with a parent with an addiction like alcohol or drugs.

• Having to become the caretaker at an early age of one or both of your parents.

• Having to caretake siblings because of parental abandonment.

These are just a few ways a person develops fears of abandonment in childhood that cause blocks in adult relationships. These blocks can cause havoc. When reliable warmth and protection are missing during a child's vulnerable first years, intense abandonment fears can develop in the subconscious mind.

Signs of Abandonment Issues

Even in adulthood, old wounds may show up as:

• Extreme distress or rage when a partner is unavailable.

• Clinginess and fear of being alone.

• Testing for loyalty and a constant need for reassurance.

• Low self-worth and the belief that others will inevitably leave.

• Jumping from one relationship to the next for fear of being alone.

• Getting into bad relationships just to be in a relationship.

• Fears sometimes morph into intense anger if one feels abandoned in a relationship.

• Intense anger towards a partner that wants to leave a relationship.

How to Overcome childhood abandonment issues

Acknowledge the roots of these fears without judgement. Be compassionate toward the hurt inner child who adapted to uncertainty in whatever manner they could. With awareness and commitment, new neural pathways form when you can turn the fears around. A good start is having the awareness of the problem. Also, therapy is highly recommended because the therapist is trained to help one deal with these fears of abandonment. There is no easy fix; it takes time to heal inner child wounds.

These are some ways to ease the feeling of abandonment:

• Offer inner dialogue affirming safety, support, and love. Envision yourself in a safe space.

• Practice self-soothing through breathing, nature, and creativity. A walk in nature can do wonders.

• Voice unmet childhood needs, grieve losses, and supply nourishment.

• Build a support network of friends independent of romantic partners.

• Cultivate self-esteem through accomplishments and social connections.

• In relationships, voice fears in calm communication and set healthy boundaries.

These are a few ways to feel better. Though formidable, abandonment fears can absolutely be overwhelming, having a game plan when the strike can be a comfort. Confront core wounds without blame. Commit daily to proving to your precious inner child that they are loved, worthy, and will not be left alone again.

Inner child affirmations

Affirmations are a very good way to undo some of the inner child wounds. Saying these out loud, as often as you can, will help reprogram the subconscious mind, where all of our childhood wounds lay.

Here are some inner child affirmations:

• I am in the presence of God and never alone.

• I am nurturing my inner child with love.

• I am safe and secure in my environment.

• I am always in a loving space with the spirit within.

• I am loved by family and friends.

• I am loved by myself.

• I am in a loving relationship with someone who will not abandon me.

These are a few affirmations that you can say out loud often, or you can make up your own unique affirmations.

In closing, I want to reiterate that awareness is the key to healing inner child wounds. Therapy is also imperative to help you heal. Reaching out to a therapist is not a weakness, but a way to strengthen yourself. It’s important to have someone that really understands. A life coach well versed in inner child can also be a blessing. Wishing you much healing.

If you feel like you need help, I offer life coaching, and can help you with reparenting your inner child and other areas you may be struggling with in your life. I offer a free coaching session.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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Healing Your Inner Child with Affirmations: Change your Destiny - Rachel Devine

What are inner child affirmations?

Inner child affirmations are positive statements you direct toward your wounded inner child to transform old, limiting beliefs formed in childhood. You want to offset any negative thoughts from the past to positive ones. Our thoughts are engrained in our subconscious mind, that drives our life 95% of the time. Therefore, we want our subconscious to have positive thoughts. Joel Osteen says, “If you want to see what your future will be like, look at the words you are speaking today.” Our words are powerful and direct our lives and create our destiny. Let’s look at how we can use affirmations to change our destiny in life.

Inner child affirmations are key to success in life.

Examples of inner child affirmations

• I am worthy of love and belonging.

• I deeply accept and value who I am.

• I am safe and protected.

• I am loved by everyone I meet.

• I am empowered by my own words.

As children, we absorbed negative messages about ourselves and the world around us. Left unaddressed, these can sabotage our happiness as adults. If affirmations are repeated daily for months, they can not only change the subconscious mind, they will help create your future. The key is to be consistent.

Changing your thoughts from negative to positive will steer your life in a positive direction and in turn change your destiny.

How do affirmations work?

Affirmations are short positive words. Repeated with sincerity and mindfulness, affirmations override years of negative conditioning, replacing messages in our head from a negative to a positive.

For example, you can flip the negative thoughts that invade your mind to positive thoughts:

• “I am stupid and worthless.” change to "I am brilliant and worthy.”

• “I am ugly.” change to “I am beautiful, inside and out."

• “I don’t deserve good things.” change to “I am deserving of all good things.”

• “I never succeed with my goals.” change to “I always succeed with my goals.”

• “Nobody understands me.” change to “I am understood and loved.”

Inner child healing affirmations will change your whole life and help heal the wounded inner child.

Inner child healing affirmations

Here are some examples of empathetic, nurturing affirmations for your inner child:

• I embrace, understand, and accept all parts of myself.

• I release the burdens from my past. I am free and at peace.

• I lovingly attend to my feelings and needs each day.

• My life overflows with joyful blessings as I both give and receive.

• I am filled with so much love that my cup overflows.

The Power of self-love transforms lives.

The Power of Self-Love

Commit to speaking affirmations aloud to yourself every morning and throughout your day. Make recordings to listen to as you walk or sleep. Before you fall asleep each night, say some positive affirmations. This is the most powerful time that you can penetrate the subconscious mind, as you fall asleep.

Over time, these words restructure neural networks, opening you to more positive perceptions, emotions, and possibilities. The key is to be consistent in continuing to direct loving words and thoughts to yourself. The more you love yourself, the more you heal from inner child wounds. Most importantly, affirm your precious inner child daily. Self-acceptance and self-compassion transform old feelings of unworthiness into an empowered, embodied spirit overflowing with love for yourself. It can literally transform your life.

In closing, remember, the words you speak and the thoughts you have are shaping your future. Our future will go in the direction that we steer it in. Destiny doesn’t just happen, destiny is in your hands and creating the future you want starts with positive, loving affirmations.

If you feel like you need help, I offer life coaching, and can help you with reparenting your inner child and other areas you may be struggling with in your life. I offer a free coaching session.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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Connect with your Inner Child through a Guided Meditation - Rachel Devine

If you want to connect with your inner child, the best way to do that is through meditation. John Bradshaw, an expert in the field of the inner child, boldly suggests we go back to our childhood home to connect with our inner child. I was fascinated with the idea of going back to my childhood home. I did a ton of research into this concept and was really able to connect with my inner child through meditation. Not only did I connect with my inner child, but I was able to connect in a way that brought my inner child a lot of joy and healing. I share my experience with you, along with a guided meditation, in order for you to connect with your inner child.

I remember the first time I went back to my childhood home. I was filled with joy and sadness. I remember the tears streaming down my face, but nonetheless, the joy of being in my home, in my meditation, felt as if I were really back in time. And for all I know, I was back in time, in a space that was very real for me.

If you would like to connect with your inner child, the most profound way to do it is by going back to your childhood home.

Below is a meditation that gently guides you back to your childhood home in order to connect with your inner child. This is an easy-flow type of meditation, so don’t think about it; just go with the flow. This meditation is a great way to connect with your inner child. And please note, there is no right or wrong way to do this.

Before you do this meditation, make sure you have a friend or therapist in your life that you can talk to about inner child healing. Inner child wounds sometimes run deep and having a support system is highly recommended.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Discover the Power of the Secret Within, Healing the Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. It’s on Amazon now.

The information contained in this blog and meditation is intended for educational and not for diagnosis, or treatment of any health disorders. Although every precaution has been taken, the author takes no responsibility for errors or omissions. Neither is any liability assumed for damages from use of the information contained herein. The author does not dispense emotional or physical advice without recommending the advice of a physician, mental health doctor or therapist. The intent of the author is to offer general information of self-development, and in the event you use any of the information in this blog or meditation the author, assumes no responsibility for your actions or the outcome.

7 Ways to Heal Your Inner Child Wounds

Our inner child represents the emotional part of us that developed in infancy, childhood, and adolescence. These were vulnerable times when we experienced life as a child. Lots of different feelings developed from experiences and possible traumas. Many of us developed inner child wounds. Inner child work means going back to understand, validate, and heal your childhood wounds. As psychologist Carl Jung put it this way, “The inner child carries the burden of being our past and future." Those are very critical words to describe exactly what the inner child carries around for us.

Let’s look into the inner child wounds from the past and see where we can heal the inner child.

Validate your past

It’s so important to not only connect with what happened to you as a child, but to validate your feelings. If you experienced trauma or grief, it’s important to try recognize and to feel those feelings. Any repressed inner child feelings will only erupt during anxiety, fearful, angry or stressful times and cause havoc in adulthood. It would be like opening a Pandora’s box of horrors. Getting in touch with those feelings will be the best thing you can do to combat adult disruptions. Once you are in touch with those feelings, you can release them. One way to release them is to speak about it out loud, even if just to yourself.

Identify any neglect or trauma

It’s important to recognize any neglect you may have experienced as a child or trauma. Bringing out our dark secrets from the past into the light of day helps it lose it’s power over us. Just speaking it out loud is a great start. Try to acknowledge the neglect to a friend or therapist.

Look for patterns

Our lives are a series of patterns from childhood emotions that seep into adulthood. Our anger issues that get out of control, are usually from past childhood anger that come out of left field during a heated argument. Recognizing any pattern from childhood is a great start to healing. An example of a relationship pattern from childhood would be having anger issues over your father not coming to your little league games. Now, as an adult, you take that anger out on your wife if she can’t be there for you in a certain situation. The anger would be intense and out of proportion to a minor situation with your wife. This is just one example of a pattern of anger from childhood.

Feel your feelings

Suppressed emotions manifest in other unhealthy ways. Make space to feel sadness, anger, and fear fully. It is imperative to feel your feelings.

Write a letter to your inner child. Assure your younger self that they did nothing to deserve mistreatment. Remind them of their talents and intrinsic beauty. Also list any hurt feelings or anger in your letter. Also identify any feelings of emotional or physical abandonment issues. Looking back on your childhood and writing about hurtful times is imperative to healing. Getting it all out on paper will serve as a great way to alleviate the fears and anger from the past. It might feel uncomfortable, but that will pass and you will start to feel healed. You can also do daily journaling on past experiences as an inner child. Journaling is a sure way to bring to light inner child wounds and help heal them. Remember, every time you remember an inner child wound, and write it out, you are releasing it to the universe.

Speak encouraging mantras

Combat an inner critic with loving wisdom. Tell yourself often, “I am enough. I matter. I am worthy of love. I am loveable” Create new neural pathways with affirmative language. Using words of affirmation will help you feel more positive and in turn happier. Speak words of affirmations daily to yourself, and do it over and over again until it resonates for you.

Meet unmet needs

Make a list of activities that would comfort your inner child’s fears and longings. Do you like to play music? Create art? Engage with spirituality to really heighten the experience, if you choose to. Enjoying life is part of self-care. Self-care is putting total focus on yourself and doing things that make you happy. As Audre Lorde wrote, “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence; it is self-preservation.” Take that vacation you always wanted. Get out a coloring book and be creative. Go to a park and enjoy the swings. Walk barefoot on the beach. Fulfill your own needs by acknowledging them and acting them out.

Cultivate a safe community

Surround yourself with people who champion all parts of you, past and present. Be around people who celebrate you, not tolerate you. Consider joining a support group to share struggles without shame and reduce isolation. 12 step programs are an excellent way towards healing. Seeing childhood wounds in friends allows empathy for what they too endure. Kindness is contagious. Be the person you need for someone else. When we help others, it helps us stay focused on our own healing as well.

In closing, it’s important to implement with patient devotion these methods in order for your inner child to feel seen, safe, and healed. You deserve to be nurtured now and always. It’s so important to recognize your inner child wounds and start the healing process. These 7 steps are a great start to healing the inner child. You want to graduate to this state of being happy, rather than fight invisible emotional wounds from the past for the rest of your life. Remember, the rest of your life starts today. You have the power to change the things you can.

If you feel like you need help, I offer life coaching, and can help you with reparenting your inner child and other areas you may be struggling with in your life. I offer a free coaching session.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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What does ‘Inner Child’ Mean? Understanding and Healing Your Inner Child.

You might hear about the inner child and see a blog and decide to pass over it. You may have a false image of what the inner child actually means. The reality is, we all have an inner child. Inner child is not some far out concept from the 90s, it’s a very real part of everyone’s life. It’s not something you can ignore forever, because it has a great impact and power over your life, whether you realize it or not. If you keep the pandora’s box of the inner child long enough, it will eventually cause untold conflict. So, the question begs, what is the inner child?

The inner child refers to the vulnerable, emotional part of one's personality that forms in early childhood. It contains our core feelings, needs, desires, fears, anger, and memories from the first years of life. Even as adults, this childlike part of us will emerge at times, especially when we feel threatened, anxious, or afraid. Recognizing and nurturing this inner child is key to our emotional wellbeing.

First step is connect with your inner child.

How to Connect with Your Inner Child

• Noticing intense emotions: Strong feelings like excessive anger, sadness, or shame often represent "tantrums" of an aching inner child. Pay close attention when this happens.

• Identifying childlike desires: Cravings, especially for comforts like sweet or fried foods, can indicate the inner child is seeking to be nurtured. Another tell-tale sign of the inner child coming out in your life and why most of us can’t keep the weight off.

• Being aware of regressive behaviors: Do you become especially needy around certain people or situations? This suggests the inner child feels endangered.

• Intense anger for small infractions is tied to the inner child. If you get angry easily, at the slightest thing, you can pretty much bet it is coming from a past situation from childhood that is being triggered by the person or situation you are angry about.

• Feelings of fears of abandonment in adult relationships are also a sign of triggers from past childhood wounds. If your partner is going away on a business trip and you feel fearful, that is from an old childhood wound.

• Considering what "age" you feel: Specific situations may trigger memories of when you were 5, 10, or 15 years old. Pay attention to any pattern of anger or abandonment issues and when you first felt that way.

By stopping when big feelings surface and asking, "How old does this make me feel?" you can connect to this child part. These are all ways to recognize how your inner child causes havoc in your life. The goal is to heal the inner child.

How to soothe and comfort your inner child.

How to Soothe and Comfort Your Inner Child

Ways to nurture the inner child when painful emotions arise include:

• Offer understanding through inner dialogue. Validate how the inner child might feel frightened, rejected, unseen, angry or unloved. Say, “You’re not alone. I hear you, and I’m here for you now.” Being there to reparent your inner child is a comfort.

• Provide physical comfort: rock gently, wrap arms around yourself, or let hands rest protectively over your heart.

• Engage the senses: hold a soft blanket or stuffed animal, sip warm herbal tea, or play soothing music. Allow your mind and body to relax.

• Supply emotional support. Cradle the inner child in compassion, empathy, and patience. Say aloud reassuring statements like “You are so precious to me” or “You deserved better, and you have me now.”

Self-love equals self-care, especially for healing the inner child

Self-Care techniques

Self-care is essential to form a loving friendship with your inner child. Taking care of your adult needs is crucial.

Some of those self-care needs are simple:

• Love

• Companionship

• Nourishment

• Exercise

• Rest and vacation time

• Affirming words of comfort

• Healthy meals

• Hot bath or spa day

• Having quiet time

Make a concerted effort for one full month to do extra special things for yourself and see how much that makes you feel loved and cared for.

The Power is in the Moment

The power of the moment

Most importantly, commit to showing up wholeheartedly for yourself, flaws and all. Living in the moment is crucial to being there for yourself. When you think about it, this moment is all we have. Shining this light of presence into the darkest recesses of your inner world illuminates pain built up over a lifetime. It can initiate so much inner child healing. With time, consistency, and courage, genuine self-care heals old wounds. Gradually, the fierce outbursts of an indignant inner child give way to the peaceful presence of your authentic self, emotional maturity, and personal power. You want to graduate to this state of being happy, rather than fight invisible emotional wounds from the past.

If you feel like you need help, I offer life coaching, and can help you with reparenting your inner child and other areas.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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If you have any questions, please contact Rachel Devine.

7 Steps to Reparent Yourself for Inner Child Healing - Rachel Devine

Many of us carry wounds from childhood—whether from absent, critical, controlling, or even abusive parenting. As adults, we may still hear these hurtful voices from our past, undermining our self-worth. When negative voices come out of left field, you can be sure it is coming from the wounded inner child. The good news is that it is possible to "reparent" and care for your inner child through understanding, compassion, positive affirmations and mindfulness. With commitment to the following steps, you can transform old beliefs and finally give yourself the nurturing you deserve. It is possible to reparent yourself to heal your inner child.

Here are 7 steps to reparent yourself for inner child healing.

1. Get to know your inner child

Start by reflecting on what you were like as a child. What was your temperament? What brought you joy, and what were you sensitive to? What were your interests and talents? What did you need that you perhaps did not receive? By understanding yourself better at younger ages, you can learn how to meet those needs today. Journaling in this area is a great way to get in touch with your inner child and feelings from the past.

2. Communicate love and acceptance

Practice self-compassion by writing letters to yourself at various ages. Tell these different stages of your inner child that you love them unconditionally, not for what they achieved but simply for who they are. Assure them they are enough just as they are. Use some positive words to affirm your inner child like, you are smart, you are beautiful, and you are worthy. This helps release old unsubstantiated shame. Motivational quotations can help too.

3. Identify and validate emotional wounds

Notice when difficult emotions arise in your daily life. Or when the negative voices infringe on your day. Instead of ignoring them or reacting with anger, listen to these voices and understand where they came from. Link them to past rejections, loneliness, betrayals, experiences, trauma or abuse. Say out loud to your inner child, “What happened to you was not fair. I’m here now to support and love you.” Any positive words of support will change the inner feelings that are negative.

4. Learn to meet your needs today

Make a list of what your inner child still hungers for, whether it’s touch, encouragement, love, rest, or play. Brainstorm specific ways you can nourish yourself each day. It may help to picture speaking to your inner child and asking what he or she needs right now. In fact, get a picture of yourself as a child and communicate directly to the picture. It’s easier to love yourself if you can see a picture of you as a beautiful or handsome child. Ask yourself these questions:

• What do I want?

• What will make me happy?

• What can I do to make this happen?

5. Practice positive self-talk

Children believe what adults tell them about themselves. If your parents were critical, rather than echoing those harsh voices from the past, begin building yourself up. Look in the mirror each morning and counter old negatives with truthful positives, for example: “I am worthy. I am capable. I am loveable.”

6. Artistic therapy

A great way to connect with the inner child and do some reparenting is to have some fun through art. Get a coloring book and crayons and have fun with it. Or get some oak tag and draw pictures or create a vision board that outlines how much you are loved and valued. Use positive words, pictures and drawings to create a vision board of self-love and care. Any creative way you choose to bring fun and love into your life will bring you joy and fulfillment.

7. Positive affirmations

Using positive affirmations is an excellent way to reprogram the mind to a positive state. It’s a perfect way to reparent yourself. Saying positive affirmations over and over will override the negative thoughts in your head. Just write out some positive affirmations on some post-its, post them where you can seem them and say them out loud as often as you can. Some affirmations are, I am loved, I am worthy, I am value, etc. Anything you say after the two words, I am, has to always be positive in order to change the mind to a positive state.

Conclusion

Our upbringing definitely shapes us, but it does not define our future. Appreciate the small steps forward on your journey of reparenting. Building new neural positive pathways can gradually transform feelings of unworthiness into empowered self-acceptance. You can create the safe, nurturing home within yourself that you always deserved. Inner child wounds take time to heal. If you feel like you still need help, I offer life coaching, and can help you with reparenting your inner child and other areas.

Rachel Devine is the author or a new book on inner child called, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams. This book is available now on Amazon.

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Healing Your Inner Child: A Path to Awareness Rachel Devine

Inner child dynamics can be confusing and complicated. It’s important to break it down to size in order to start the inner child healing process. Our inner child represents the part of us that holds childhood memories, emotional needs, trauma, and subconscious beliefs formed in our early years. Most of us carry over our childhood dysfunctions into adulthood. This dysfunction can range from addictions, to anger issues, insecurities, low self-esteem and other social issues. Healing the inner child leads to greater wellbeing and happiness.

Inner child healing

Defining the Inner Child

The inner child is our feelings, energies, needs, vulnerabilities, experiences, our neurological imprint. Simply put, the inner child is part of your personality that still feels and acts like a child.

According to psychology expert John Bradshaw, “The inner child dwells within all adults. It’s the part that feels emotions and carries our intuitions, creativity, spontaneity, and playfulness.”

The inner child develops in childhood as a means to adapt to our environment. But if traumatic, it creates core wounds, driving dysfunction.

Bradshaw stated, “The healthy inner child brings forth wonder, joy, playfulness, and creativity.” However, the unhealthy inner child brings out the worst in us. Exploring the inner child can feel like opening up a Pandora’s box, but it is crucial to find healing.

What is the Inner Child in adulthood?

The following are signs of the inner child coming out in adulthood.

• Hypersensitivity to perceived rejection or exclusion

• Reacting defensively or impulsively when criticized

• Craving nourishment, affection, or praise from others

• Struggling with boundaries or priorities

• Fearing abandonment or loss in relationships

• Defaulting to shame or inadequacy when struggling

• Intense anger issues

These are just some issues that indicate an inner child issue has reared its ugly head in your adult life.

Ways to Heal Your Inner Child

1. Open a caring dialogue with your inner child by connecting to your feelings. Give your inner child permission to freely communicate its buried feelings and needs.

2. Validate inner emotions and pains with empathy. Offer the unconditional love you craved but didn’t receive growing up.

3. Set healthy boundaries if your behaviors are destructive. For example, provide comfort when sad, but limit tantrums or acting out with anger.

4. Reassure your inner child’s worthiness and intrinsic goodness. Replace old negative self-beliefs with positive truths. Always use positive affirmations towards yourself.

5. Healing your inner child meditation. Go back to a time when your inner child was in pain in a meditation and reparent your inner child with love and safety.

6. Inner child healing therapy is a great way to find healing. Find a good therapist that is right for you.

7. Speak encouragingly and affirm their strengths. Foster their self-confidence. And use self-loving words to your inner child.

8. Comfort your inner child when you’re feeling upset using visualizations, stuffed animal hugs, or consoling letters.

9. Indulge in play, creativity, and joy through art and other creative ways; this nourishes the inner child’s spirit.

10. Get a picture of yourself as a child and say often to the picture, “I love you.” It will make a difference.

11. Enlist a good life-coach to help.

With consistent loving care, your inner child transforms from a hindrance in your adult life into a source of vitality, wisdom, and strength. The more you embrace this part of yourself, the more healthy your relationships will be at home, at work and with friends. Feeding your inner child with love and compassion is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book, Discovering the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams.

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Let me Introduce You to Your Inner Child-Rachel Devine

The inner child represents the part of your psyche that holds childhood memories, feelings, wounds, personality traits, and unmet developmental needs. Becoming aware of this aspect of yourself is crucial to healing the inner child. We all have an inner child with issues, whether you realize it or not. By raising awareness of this subconscious inner child, you can start the healing process through inner child work, that will allow you to move forward in life in an easier fashion. So what is inner child healing? Let’s explore this aspect of inner child. Let’s look at ways to recognize and do some inner child work.

Inner child healing by understanding the inner child

Recognizing your inner child

Some signs your inner child is active include:

• Hypersensitivity to perceived rejection or exclusion

• Reacting defensively or impulsively when criticized

• Craving nourishment, affection, or praise from others

• Struggling with boundaries or priorities

• Fearing abandonment or loss in relationships

• Defaulting to shame or inadequacy when struggling

• Intense anger issues

These are just a few of the signs that your inner child is emerging, usually during stressful times or times of emotional trigger. Emotional triggering happens when we are confronted with an event that subconsciously brings us back to childhood event that was upsetting or traumatizing, and the intense emotions come out of left field. Inner child channels are raw, vulnerable emotions and instincts. Notice when excessive moodiness, neediness, or insecurity arise, often revealing your inner child’s outsized influence.

A very telling time is during road rage. If you become intensely angry during road rage, chances are that is your inner child raging from within.

What is your Inner Child and Connecting to it?

Let’s introduce yourself to your inner child. You can become increasingly aware of your inner child through the following:

• Journaling: Dialogue with your inner child in writing to uncover their feelings.

• Visualization: Use your imagination to picture your inner child. What do they look like? How do they feel?

• Body sensations: Notice where you hold stress physically when upset. These body clues reflect the inner child.

• Childhood reflections: Review memories and influences from your upbringing for insights.

• Inner child healing meditation: Go back into your childhood and meditate on a time of distress and be with your inner child. See what he or she is telling you about their feelings.

Honoring the Inner Child

You can start integrating your inner child through:

• Speaking to your inner child internally with compassion is very rewarding. Thank your inner child for being there and bring as much love as you can to your child.

• Spending time doing activities your inner child enjoys, like dancing, coloring, or playing is rewarding.

• Allowing yourself to cry or feel sadness with self-kindness rather than dismissing it.

• Displaying old childhood mementos and pictures can invoke fond feelings. Get a picture of yourself as a child and tell that child how much you love him or her daily.

• Doing your best to provide for the inner child’s needs—whether play, connection, validation, nourishment, or rest is so important. Practice self-care in all areas and be aware of your needs and wants.

Gaining awareness of your inner child allows you to update harmful programmed beliefs and consciously respond to your inner needs with wisdom, understanding and love. Inner child work leads to wholeness, self love and releasing old wounds and dysfunctional patterns.

Rachel Devine is the author of a new inner child book, Discovering the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams.

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7-Step Guide to Inner Child Healing Techniques- Rachel Devine

If you are having anger issues, or stuck in a mediocre job, or having relationship issues, or struggling with an addiction, the solution lies in the inner child. Many of us do not want to open up a pandora’s box of past feelings. However, that is exactly what will help you address any issues you have in life that are not manageable. Addressing unresolved childhood wounds through inner child work can facilitate deep healing, self-love, and actualization. Various therapeutic techniques help you reconcile with your inner child to transform pain into wisdom. You will have an opportunity to be friends with your inner child, rather than to deny what is a very real part of you. It will bring you much liberation from the chains of the inner child wounds.

Let’s look at some inner child healing techniques.

Inner Child Healing Meditation

Sitting in quiet meditation while visualizing and conversing with your inner child fosters connection with compassion. Imagine going into a sanctuary. Visualize everything you can about yourself as a child. Visually embrace and comfort your inner child. Listen as they share untouched pains and unfulfilled needs. Provide validation and nourishment through words of affirmation, a visual hug or an acknowledgement of past feelings.

Inner Child Healing Journaling

Through journaling, give your inner child a voice by writing down their feelings and perspectives. Respond back with understanding and care. Explore past challenges and their lingering impacts through this written dialogue while reparenting their hurts. Being able to get in touch with your feelings as a child in writing and addressing those feelings is the most validating loving thing you can do for yourself. You can also write out some affirmations for the inner child, that you can say out loud on a regular basis.

Brainspotting Therapy

Brainspotting is for a wide variety of emotional conditions. Brainspotting is particularly effective with trauma-based situations, helping to identify and heal underlying trauma that contributes to anxiety, depression and other behavioral conditions. Brainspotting gives the therapist access to both brain and body processes. Its goal is to bypass the conscious, neocortical thinking to access the deeper, subcortical emotional and body-based parts of the brain in order to release past inner child trauma. It is very effective and worth looking into.

Inner Child Art Therapy

Expressive arts like painting, drawing, or molding clay help give shape to formless feelings locked in your inner child. The nonverbal outlet accesses subconscious aspects. Examine the themes depicted visually. Try your hand at art and expressing your inner child’s feelings. A life-coach can be a great help with inner child healing.

Energy Healing

Emotional Freedom Technique (tapping), breathwork, and somatic therapy aimed at releasing trapped fight-or-flight energy from past trauma help restore inner child wholeness. The body remembers what the mind has buried.

Toy/Keepsake Inner Child Rituals

Inner child rituals are effective too. Hold a favorite childhood memento like a stuffed animal or a doll when dialoguing internally with your inner child. Keep it nearby as a touchstone. You can use positive words of love, comfort and validation for your inner child to the doll that represents yourself as a child. Let it represent your commitment to embracing your inner child with care, love and compassion.

Inner Child Healing Therapy

Inner child healing therapy is priceless, if you find a good therapist. Working with a therapist will give you much insight into your past inner child wounds and help you heal. It’s especially helpful for those who have addictions, or constant anger issues, or perhaps low self-esteem. Whatever the situation you are facing today, I can safely say it is wrapped up in past traumas or wounds. A good therapist can help you.

There are many avenues to reconnect with your inner essence in a healing way. Try different practices to discover what modalities resonate most deeply for you. This will give you an opportunity to recover from old wounds that still influence behaviors and beliefs as an adult. Be patient and let reconciliation unfold, one insight at a time. It’s like peeling an onion. Each layer brings you closer to inner healing and in turn to better adult experiences.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Discovering the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams.

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I Think I Can, I Think I Can, I Think I can! It All Starts with Your Inner World! Rachel Devine

I love that children’s book, The Little Engine that Could by, Watty Piper. The big phrase in the book is the little blue engine says repeatedly, “I think I can, I think I can, I think I can. It’s such a positive affirmation of hope in achieving the little engines goal of going over the big mountain. Many of us also have mountains we want to climb over in life. Some are goals and other mountains are obstacles.

We all are capable of unimaginable success and climbing over mountains, if we realize that our inner world is a big factor in determining how we progress in life. Most of us are oblivious to this crucial part of our lives that dictates almost every decision we make and we wind up in a circular driveway, going nowhere fast.

The wounded inner child, carrying baggage from childhood wounds, abandonments, or critical messages, can undermine our success in life through self-doubt, excessive need for external validation, perfectionism, feeling unworthy, and other limiting patterns and beliefs. By understanding and healing this part of ourselves, our inner child transforms from foe to friend. This transformation helps one to be successful in any endeavor they undertake including, losing weight, running a successful business, becoming a writer, an actress, giving up an addiction, making lots of money, finding your soulmate, etc.

Let’s look at this in a comprehensive way.

Identifying Inner Child Sabotage

Unconscious ways your inner child may sabotage success include the following:

• Needing others’ approval before acting on inspiration.

• Abandoning projects when you hit roadblocks.

• Talking down to yourself with criticism.

• Only feeling worthy with perfect outcomes.

• Isolating when feeling overwhelmed or depressed.

• Self-medicating the empty void with food, alcohol, or drugs.

• Staying stuck, envisioning the worst-case scenarios.

• Low self-esteem.

• A feeling of unworthiness.

The inner child operates behind the scenes by distorting thinking around present-day goals based on old conditioning. Those negative thoughts that come out of left field and invade your mind are the dialogue of the inner child from the past. This negative dialogue is a block to good relationships, family connections, success in business and so much more.

Transforming Inner Dialogue

Bring conscious awareness to times when you undermine progress through harsh self-judgment, doubt, isolation, unworthiness, or seeking excessive reassurance. Pause and identify this as the inner child’s fearful influence. If you want to start a project or move towards a long-awaited goal and you can’t get past self-doubt, it’s time to really look at the inner child and your thoughts.

Rather than reacting the same old way to negative self-talk, consciously respond with compassion towards yourself. Provide the unconditional love and affirmation your inner child craves to heal old wounds. Forgive perceived imperfections. Turn negative dialogue into positive ones. Create a self-loving environment. Build on your own self-esteem by giving to yourself in a nurturing and generous way. When you direct your own love toward yourself, you are building a strong relationship with the most important person in your life, and this will carry over to every area you want to succeed in.

Positive affirmations

Positive affirmations are positive phrases, or statements that are used to offset negative thoughts. You can use them to motivate, encourage positive changes in your life, or boost your self-esteem. Affirmations also penetrate the subconscious mind, if said with enough feeling, and this in turn will help your life move in a positive direction.

You can build positive affirmations by writing them out and saying them out loud as often as you can. Some ideas are, I am worthy, I am loved, I am confident, I am successful, I found my soulmate, I am healthy, and I am making lots of money. Or you can make positive statements, such as, I now express health, happiness, prosperity, and peace of mind.

Gradually, this positive self-parenting transforms your inner voice from sabotage to an uplifting cheerleader. The light of awareness dispels unconscious shadows and you might find yourself succeeding in areas you thought were not possible.

Replacing negative patterns

As dysfunctional patterns loosen through inner child healing, proactively build positive habits that serve your goals, like consistent practice in moving towards your goal, dividing tasks into manageable steps, and celebrating small wins. You can also journal with positive affirmations and replace any negative intrusion of thoughts immediately to positive ones. This alone can help you transform to new heights. By building positive habits that serve your goal, you are on your way to succeeding in the goal you choose. Additionally, a “To do list” will keep you on track in moving in the direction of your goal.

Louise Hay, founder of Hay House Publishing and author and teacher says this about the inner child:

“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”

Picture your words as being in an echo chamber. What you say comes back like an echo. This is the law of attraction working, as like attracts like. Changing dialogue to a positive state will move your life in a positive direction.

Remember, it’s so important to let your inner mentor emerge to help manifest dreams rather than allow past pain to dictate your present moments. Befriending your inner child removes blocks to claiming your joy and success. Be the parent to your inner child that will help you grow into the person you were meant to be. Remember, if you think you can, then you can do it. Stay positive and focused and your dreams will manifest into reality.

Rachel Devine is the author of, Discovering the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams.

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Inner Child Healing Book: Let it Begin with You - Rachel Devine

You might not realize it, but your inner child is screaming for help. It comes in the form of triggers that come from left field during an argument. Or knee-buckling fear when it comes to romantic relationships. Or anger that comes unexpectedly and is unleashed to innocent bystanders. These are all examples of the inner child screaming for help.

My new book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within - Healing your Inner Child to Manifest your Dreams, is a way to heal your inner child.

Make no mistake about it, it would be extremely hard to manifest your goals and dreams with all of that stuff going on with your inner child. My book is all about healing your inner child to clear the way to manifest your dreams. Your dreams do matter. They are important and they should be played out. Life is too short to get to a point at the end and realize you had dreams on the back burner that never came to fruition.

Let’s look into this a little deeper with an excerpt from my new book from the preface:

My book is about creating yourself anew. It is about discovering the power of the secret within, which is elusive and mysterious. The power within you is a well-kept secret. Most people will not learn about it in their lifetime. It has positively transformed millions of lives. Those who discover the power of the secret within will be richer than any successful billionaire in the world.  

Do you have long-forgotten dreams that you want to make a reality? Do you want to lose weight, start a business, find your soulmate, get a promotion, get healthy, or end an addiction? Well, now is the time to move forward and make your dreams a reality. I will show you exactly how to do this. Make no mistake about it, you have this miraculous power within to create your destiny. 

However, there can be blocks to realizing your dreams. There is another power called the subconscious mind that is in charge of almost every decision, every move, and every thought you make in life.  Most people have no idea why they have a chip on their shoulder, or why they keep meeting the same type of dysfunctional romantic partner, or why they have issues at work, or why they have deep-rooted resentments, and the answer lies within. Discovering this aspect of yourself with awareness will empower you to transform your life in a positive way.

Your inner child is part of the power of your subconscious mind, that has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). The subconscious mind holds all your emotions, memories, experiences, traumas, and beliefs from the past. This dual force, the subconscious mind and inner child, drives your life 95% of the time! This is an incredible revelation. I will explore this dual action-packed power in one of my chapters.

I will also link a distinct pattern with our addictions to early childhood interactions and show you why it plays a big factor in determining perhaps your own addictions, or as I call them, vices. I will also show you ways to heal from these vices.

I will help you come to the empowerment state of taking back your life and teach you how to manifest your dreams into reality. 

I will also explore grief and how it relates to all of this. Do you ever wonder why losing a beloved dog, or cat, or any kind of pet, makes a person feel as if the grief is more devastating than losing a parent? There is a reason behind that intense grief, which I will address in one of my chapters. Furthermore, not only will you come to understand it, but you will be able to deal better with the pain and grief of losing a loving pet. 

We all have choices. One choice is to continue to go about your life in a way that is oblivious to the power of the inner workings, whereas you can just continue to live in an unconscious state of daily routine, accepting limitations in intimate relationships, as well as in your career and other areas, and perhaps allowing fears to dictate what direction your life goes in.

Or, you can become acutely aware of what is going on with your inner child, and your subconscious mind, each a driving force, and actually change the course of your journey in life. You can learn how to change the way it has a negative impact to a positive impact on your life. Knowledge is power and awareness is the key. I will show you how to change the subconscious imprint that the inner child developed onto your brain in childhood, so you will be liberated from the chains of the negative, inner child influence. This will give you an edge in all areas of your life from dating to career decisions to family interactions.

One of the reasons why dating is so dysfunctional is due to inner dynamics and I will go into very specific details on this and show you ways to overcome this dilemma. 

My goal is to help you move forward in areas of your life you thought were not possible. You will also learn the powerful secret on how to shift the subconscious mind to create exactly what you want in life. I will explain, step by step, how this powerful secret within will help you create your destiny. You have the power to manifest anything in life, from success, to wealth, to love, to good health, and so much more. I will guide you on how you can do this. It may sound foreign to you at this time. However, by the time you finish reading this book, you will have an amazing awareness and knowledge of the power of the secret within. 

Whatever the lessons you receive from reading my book will be tailor-fit for your needs. Although I am the messenger, the entity that opens the heart and mind to life lessons is your higher power, and ultimately it is between you and your higher power to learn whatever you need to learn.

You picked up this book for a reason. You are exactly where you need to be in life and something has drawn you to this amazing awareness and potential healing. Therefore, explore the endless possibilities of the lessons that will come out of the awareness you will learn from reading this book. Don’t allow this moment to slip away without grabbing the opportunity for growth, happiness, and power. This amazing opportunity has come to you for a reason. Take advantage of this information that will give you an edge in your life. 

The inner child is powerful beyond words and the fact that most of society is walking around in an unconscious state, oblivious to the power the inner child has on them, is unfortunate. My book is the equalizer and will help you comprehend the dynamics of the inner workings in a way that will invoke much healing. I will bring you to an expansive awareness that will act as a wake-up call that literally can transform your life for the better. Additionally, allow yourself this precious gift of waking up to a reality where you can create the life you dream of. 

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I found this book to be intriguing and very well written, with examples of real life situations . I give this book a 10 out of a 10 ! I recommend it highly! I think it is a treasure, trove of knowledge that will change a lot of lives! Dawn

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Inner Child Healing Meditation - Rachel Devine

Inner-child healing is essential to living a life filled with happiness and contentment. Most of us do not realize the impact the inner child has on us. We are preprogrammed emotionally in early childhood, and this carries over to our adult lives. If you have constant issues in life with family, friends, or work, Or if you have a really bad temper or have fears. Perhaps you have trouble losing weight or finding a soulmate who is compatible. All of these issues stem from the inner child. However, don’t despair; with a little knowledge and some inner child healing techniques, you can heal the inner child.

Subconscious mind example

Our subconscious mind is in control of 95% of our lives. Since we were born, the subconscious mind has been fed different information in the form of feelings. The inner child is part of the subconscious. It’s a scary notion to realize our lives are pretty much dictated by our past fears, angers, traumas, and experiences. The way to clear some of this out of our subconscious and replace it with positive feelings is through meditation. Meditation is a way to resonate with feelings that will get penetrated by the subconscious, thus helping us change the course of our lives!

Inner child healing meditation

John Bradshaw was a pioneer in the inner-child world. He wrote an inner child book called Homecoming that was very successful in the 1990s. He boldly suggests we peer into our childhood home and connect with that inner child.

In my book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within: Healing Your Inner Child to Manifest Your Dreams, I guide you into a meditation for healing the inner child since this is one surefire way to heal the inner child.

My inner child book excerpt: Inner child healing meditation

So, let’s start the process of going back to our childhood. We are going to do this in a more defined way. At this point, I ask you to please keep an open mind. You see, the problem is in the mind; therefore, the solution is also in the mind, and we will be tapping into the subconscious mind, which is where the imprint of your personality has been created.

We are going to imagine going back to our childhood home and seeing our child. Once you determine the feelings of pain, hurt, fear, or perhaps all of these, it is time to go back to that time in your life. Sit with your eyes closed and remember that time in your life when something happened and you needed support. Try to remember a time in your life that you felt particularity alone, hurt, or unloved, perhaps shamed, ridiculed, or a feeling of alienation or abuse. It’s okay if you don’t remember a negative time in your life as a child. You can just go back to a calm time too. Go back to that time and see everything you can. Can you remember the smells or sensations of cold or hot? Look at the colors, and try to put yourself in that space and time. Look at the furniture in the room and the light peering in from the window. Perhaps you are in your backyard and see flowers and swings. Try to remember everything about your childhood home. See your inner child and imagine what he or she is wearing. What does your child look like? See every aspect of your inner child. Take your time with this.

I suggest you close your eyes and imagine yourself as an adult approaching your little child and comforting him or her as a parent would. Tell your child all the things you need to hear to feel comforted and loved. Imagine yourself as an adult sitting with your child and actually parenting the child with love and feelings of safety and concern. Hug your child if you like. There is no right or wrong way to do this. Do it in a way that is comfortable for you and, at the same time, comforting and loving for the child. Really concentrate on the feelings of love.

When you have made that connection with your child and nurture and love your inner child, something will change in your subconscious mind to a positive feeling. If you were fearful at the time as a child, that fear will be offset by love, which is a stronger emotion. Or if the feeling was one of shame, that will also decrease in your subconscious mind as an adult. If it is a feeling of not being loved, loving your child will make you feel more loved as an adult and enable you to not be so needy when it comes to relationships. It could also help one curb their addiction because you are filling the hole in the soul or that void from not getting your childhood needs met with your own self-love.

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The key in this meditation is to resonate with the feelings and try to overcome negative feelings with positive feelings of love, comfort, security, courage, self-esteem, etc.

Our inner child is yearning for love, comfort, and support. Recognizing this aspect of yourself and nurturing your inner child with daily words of affirmation, meditations, and visuals, you will begin healing the inner child. The more the inner child heals, the more healing our adult selves will feel, and our relationships with family, friends, and work will improve.

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Inner Child Healing: How it Can Transform your Life! Rachel Devine

You may view inner child healing as something from the 90s that John Bradshaw promoted that is no longer relevant. You may also think that you are exempt from any inner child dysfunctions. I can tell you that you are just as influenced by inner child as the next person.

If you answer yes to any of these questions, you are definitely influenced by the inner child.

Are you unable to lose weight?

Do you have ongoing issues with relatives?

Do you have an inner critic telling you negative thoughts?

Do you have major problems in a relationship?

Are you in the dilemma of alcoholism in any way?

Are you chronically depressed?

Are your thoughts negative most of the time?

If you said yes to any of these, you definitely are influenced by the inner child. In fact, to be perfectly honest, we all have some inner child issues to one extent or another. Some of us are more advanced in the dysfunction department than others. Nonetheless, after all my research into the inner child, I can say with certainty that we are all affected in one way or another by the inner child.

Let’s look into this in a more defined way.

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The following is an excerpt from my new book, Discover the Power within - Healing your Inner child to Manifest your Dreams:

Chapter One - Inner Child Dynamics

The dynamics of our inner world are pretty intense. However, as I open up the nucleus of the inner child you will see how easy it really is to comprehend. 

I will start from the beginning. What transpired in our childhood determines how we develop as adults. Some of the things that transpired in childhood will plague you as an adult with things like alcoholism, drug or food addictions, anger issues, intimacy issues, fear of abandonment, commitment issues, claustrophobia, sexual disorders, continuous relationship failures, workaholism, paranoid tendencies, narcissism, fears, etc. These issues get embedded in the inner child’s psyche and carries into adulthood. This all stems from the roots that took place with the inner child and what went on in your early childhood. 

So, what does it mean when I refer to the “Inner Child”? 

The inner child is our feelings, energies, needs, vulnerabilities, experiences, our neurological imprint. Simply put, the inner child is part of your personality that still feels and acts like a child. 

The inner child that developed in each of our individual childhoods is what navigates our subconscious mind and drives our decisions in life, without realizing it. The subconscious mind holds all your experiences, traumas, and family interactions. The subconscious mind is the navigator of most of your life and is very powerful. In fact, the subconscious mind is in charge of 95% of your life, that includes your actions, decisions, and pretty much all that you do in a day. As we move along in the book, this will become clearer to you.

When we struggle to move forward in life, or to get out of a bad relationship, or we struggle to start a love relationship, or we cower down in arguments, all of these decisions are coming from the subconscious mind of the inner child. That imprint that was embedded in our mind at different developmental stages is ingrained in our subconscious mind and our adult intellect tries to reason with certain decisions we make, but usually will lose out to the fear or insecurity of the inner child. And most people are oblivious to this conflict that is going on within them and have no clue as to why they make certain decisions that are unhealthy for them. Make no mistake about it, when I say, “subconscious mind,” it means we are totally oblivious to what is happening in that part of our psyches.

Let’s look at this in stages. There are four important developmental stages of the inner child.

The first one is the infancy stage. This is the co-dependent stage from 0 to 2 years old where we are completely dependent on our parents for survival. This is the stage where we need a lot of care, nurturing, and love. It’s a time in our lives that we depend solely on our parents for survival. 

The preschool age from 2 to 4 years old is the stage of counter-dependence. This stage is often referred to as “the terrible twos.” This is a time when the child wants and needs to assert their ability to interact with their environment. The child is gaining his or her autonomy from co-dependence. 

From 4 to 7 years old, is the independence stage. At this time, a child is becoming independent and doesn’t need his or her parents to do everything, and the child becomes more independent of them.  

At seven years old the child is at an inter-dependence stage of being, which is much more independent from their parents than previous years, and pretty much can do most things for themselves.

All these developmental stages are a crucial time in a child’s life, and if a child does not get their fundamental needs met, there will be issues that develop later on in adulthood.

How we learned to love from birth to seven years old will determine our subconscious imprint that gets embedded in our brain. When we get into adulthood, we attract those people who fulfill our innermost subconscious thoughts. This imprint from childhood is what we navigate with when seeking out a partner in life.

That is the end of the excerpt. Our relationships are dictated by our subconscious imprint, so if you keep meeting the same dysfunctional people in the dating world, now you have a reason for it. Furthermore, as you can see from this information, our inner child and subconscious mind drives our life 95 % of the time. It is terrifying to know that our life decisions are driven by this dual force that was formed throughout our childhood. The important thing to know is that we can change the subconscious imprint with some easy techniques. Changing the imprint, changes the dynamics of the subconscious and in turn transforms lives. I go into specific details in my book in a step by step manner on how to change the subconscious imprint to ultimately enable one to manifest their dreams into reality. Afterall, if the subconscious is driving our life, then we want it to go in a positive and successful direction.

For more information please visit my website that has an array of free resources, as well as my books and online courses, that all have instant downloads for you to explore.

Rachel Devine is the author of her new inner child book, Discover the Power of the Secret Within, along with The Third Road and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, all on Amazon.

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