Why is Dating so Hard? The answer May Shock you. Rachel Devine

If you are part of the dating scene, you know that it can be very hard, at any age. The challenges can range from getting stood up, to continuously connecting with the same type of person; to getting ghosted after numerous texts; or perhaps attracting scammers, and the list goes on and on. Why does something so soulful, loving, and beautiful sometimes turn out to be a disaster? And the answer may shock you. The answer as to why dating is dysfunctional resides within you. Let’s explore this in detail and see what is happening on the inside that is causing dysfunction on the outside. We want to look at how to break toxic relationship patterns. And we will explore how to attract your soulmate and also look at the power of manifestation, which is a big factor in the scheme of dating.

Like attracts like

First off, we attract into our lives what we are resonating with within us. In other words, if you are resonating with angst, stress, and negativity, you are sure to get more angst, stress, and negativity in the dating world and other areas of your life. On the other hand, if you resonate with kindness, love, and a positive attitude, you will attract the same. The law of attraction is clear: like attracts like. However, most of us are wallowing around in negativity when it comes to dating, so the key is to get around that and change your own attitude to fit what you are seeking.

The inner dictates the outer

Believe it or not, how you learned to love from birth to 7 years old is a big component in connecting to true love. Our subconscious mind is storing all that transpired in childhood. Now, to go one step further, the subconscious mind drives our lives 95% of the time! So it stands to reason that we are navigating our life with all that transpired in childhood. This is one of the reasons why most of us continue to attract people who are similar to our father or mother in the dating world.

Example

Here is an example of a pattern from childhood into an adult relationship of a friend of mine. Nancy was a middle child, or, as they call them, the forgotten child. She used to do good deeds to get love from her parents. She would offer to do the dishes, shine her father’s shoes, or help her mother with the housework. That is how she learned how give and receive love, but doing good deeds. This was her way to love from birth until she was 7 years old.

Fast forward to her first relationship. She met a man who was overwhelmed as a single parent with two kids, a demanding job, and financial issues, plus he had a big family that came first in his life. He wasn’t engaged in the relationship at all, and Nancy felt like she had to jump over hoops to get his attention. Nancy tried to help him out by giving him advice about his job, helping him move, and giving him support in any way she could with the children. She didn’t realize it at the time, but she was doing good deeds to get his attention, just like she did when she was a child. She replicated her childhood in this relationship, and he was actually a combination of her father and her mother! This became a pattern for Nancy in her future relationships. A good relationship has to be balanced where both parties get their needs met.

The Fix

The fix is to change part of the subconscious mind. The way to offset the subconscious is to reprogram what it was fed in childhood. The time to do that is at bedtime. As you are going into a sleep state, you are going from a conscious to an unconscious state, which is when the subconscious mind can be reprogrammed. The unconscious state is a powerful one of transformation.

The first step is to decide what you want to change. If you want to meet your soulmate, the most simple way to do this is to imagine being in a balanced, loving relationship with someone and resonating with the feelings. It is the feelings that penetrate the subconscious mind.

An expert in the field of the subconscious mind, Neville Goddard, makes the following statements:

The subconscious never fails to express that which has been impressed upon it. The moment it receives an impression, it begins to work out the ways of its expression. It accepts the feeling impressed upon it, your feelings, as a fact existing within itself and immediately sets about to produce in the outer or objective world the exact likeness of that feeling."

A step-by step guide to manifest your dreams

This is a step-by-step guide on how to change one aspect of the subconscious from a negative to a positive state. We will work on manifesting a good relationship and how to attract your soulmate.

1. Picture one image of what you want to have in your life as if it were already here. In this case, we are going to manifest a loving relationship.

2. Picture yourself in a loving, balanced, and happy relationship with a new partner. Just use one image. I suggest an image where you are embracing your future partner or on a date. You don’t have to go into specific details of what is going on or what this person looks like; just imagine being together in a way that makes you feel loved.

3. You will then resonate with the feelings of being in a healthy relationship. You would feel loved, secure, happy, content, joyful, excited, etc. Remember, it is the feelings that will resonate with you for 8 hours and reprogram the subconscious mind. Love is the strongest emotion to offset any other emotion.

4. Fall asleep with these wonderful feelings of love and the image in your mind.

5. Do this for at least 30 days. You will wake up feeling happy, after all you fed your unconscious mind loving thoughts.

   Please note that you can do this for anything you want to manifest in your life. If you want to lose weight and get healthy, picture yourself healthy and slim and resonate with those positive feelings as you fall asleep. If you want to get a promotion, picture one image of having a promotion. If you want to increase your wealth, picture being wealthy.

   These manifesting techniques will help you manifest your dreams.

   Higher consciousness

   You might ask yourself, How can reprogramming my subconscious mind make something I want materialize in my life?

   According to many spiritual and philosophical teachings, the subconscious mind is part of a greater universal consciousness, referred to as God, Source, or the Universe. I proudly call this power God, which is the power behind manifestation in all its glory. This higher consciousness, or God, is considered the fabric of reality, and our subconscious mind is believed to be a conduit connecting us to the power of God. In more simple terms, what we feed the subconscious mind with feelings gets imbedded in the subconscious, and God brings it to form. I truly believe this is the powerful secret behind creation in all its magnificent glory and form.

   The source of all power comes from our higher power, which is the source of all power in the world. God is the light that shines in our world, which eliminates darkness and brings goodness to form. God’s power is what brings miracles to light, goodness to the world, and hope to mankind. And this same power is what manifests our dreams into reality.

   In closing, remember that it is your inner child that is part of the subconscious mind dictating what direction your life is going in. It makes sense to reprogram the negative from childhood into a positive. If you want your life to go in a positive direction, you have to feed it positive thoughts and feelings.

   “A change of feeling is a change of destiny." Neville Goddard

   
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Live the Life you Imagined - How to Manifest your Dreams - Rachel Devine

What if I told you that whatever you can imagine and dream can become your reality? Would you view that as a fantasy or reality? The answer is it would be your reality. Learn the powerful secret to manifesting, which will open up a whole new world for you.

Whether your dream is to lose weight, get healthy, become a writer, meet your soulmate, make more money, start a business, build your business, create a website, or buy a house, this event will help you manifest your dreams. Whatever your dreams and goals are, the first step is to put focused attention on what you want. The objective is to resurrect that goal and bring it out into the open so you can start putting energy into manifesting it into reality.

I will show you a comprehensive, step by step guide, to manifest your wishes and dreams into the reality you want to live in.

It all starts with the subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is powerful and drives our life 97% of the time in the direction of its choice. Our subconscious mind is the commander of our life. It makes sense to change the imprint of the subconscious mind to direct it to manifest your dreams and goals. What you feel gets imbedded in your subconscious mind and this creates your future. Having this incredible awareness is priceless and will transform your life. I will use proven techniques from some powerful spiritual masters like, Neville Goddard and Dr. Wayne Dyer, in order to make your dreams a reality.

You will learn the powerful techniques of manifesting your dreams. There are many case studies of successful manifesting outcomes. You will learn the secrets of the universe, that many will never know in a lifetime. Take advantage of this incredible opportunity. And let me show you step-by-step how to create the life of your dreams.

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Live the Life you Imagined - A Special Zoom Event on - How to Manifest your Dreams!

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This powerful event will give you valuable information that will bring to life any goal you take on. I will use the powerful techniques from experts, Wayne Dyer, Louise Hay and Neville Goddard, to manifest wishes into actual form. I studied these icons proven techniques for years and I present them to you in a concise and comprehensible manner. This event will take you on a journey of amazing discovery. Whatever your dreams and goals are, the first step is to put focused attention on what you want. The objective is to resurrect that goal and bring it to the forefront, in order to start putting energy into manifesting it into reality. Give yourself the gift of empowerment with information that can literally change your destiny.

Our subconscious mind is powerful and drives our life 97% of the time in the direction of its choice. Empowered with this knowledge, it is important to rid oneself of negative voices from the past and equip ourselves with positive affirmations and words. What you think and feel gets imbedded in your mind and creates your future. Manifesting your dreams, by changing your thoughts and feelings to give your subconscious mind a positive viewpoint, will change your life in miraculous ways. I will show you how to do that, step-by-step, in this very special event with surefire, proven techniques of the sages, which can bring your dreams to fruition.

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How to Manifest your Dreams

It’s important to reach our highest potential in life to give us meaning. We want to wake up each day and be happy about our dreams. You can manifest the life of your dreams. Manifesting your dreams and goals is not hard. Learning how to achieve your goals and dreams is important. It is part of everyone’s journey in life. Manifesting your dreams into reality will bring you fulfillment and much happiness. I will show you 5 steps on how to achieve your goals. You can achieve all your dreams with awareness and a little guidance.

You might ask yourself, what are my goals examples? Your goals might be to become healthy, lose weight, write a book, start a business, break an addiction, build a business, do volunteer work in a hospice, buy a house, find faith, meet your soulmate, run a marathon, etc. The first step is decide what your goal is. Whatever your goal or dreams are these 3 important questions can help.

Please write these questions down.

1.     Where are you right now with your goal?

2.     Where do you want to be with your goal in a year?

3.     What do you need to do NOW to achieve your goal?  

There are 5 steps that will help you manifest your dreams.

• Positive Affirmations

• Positive Visualization

• Written intention

• Prayer & Meditation

• Game plan

 Let’s dive right into each one.

1.  Positive Affirmations:

Positive affirmations are words and thoughts. The key is to strive to say as many positive affirmations as you can each day. It’s a way to undo negative thoughts that creep up on us from our past. A list of affirmations is designed to motivate us and put out good energy into God’s world and that energy will come back. I have affirmations posted on my refrigerator as a reminder to say them. On the other hand any negative words and thoughts will have the oppositive effect, so try to be mindful of your thoughts and if a negative thought enters your mind replace it with a positive one.

3. Positive Visualization:

There is a book called the power of positive thinking by Norman Vincent Peale. He was a pastor and an advocate for visualization. He has a ton of stories of how positive visualization works.  Simply closing your eyes before you go to sleep at night and visualizing what you want will help you resonate with those thoughts for 8 hours. The subconscious mind will pick it up. Again, we navigate in life with our subconscious mind, just as I did when I went to church after that faint prayer, so visualization is a powerful way to manifest our dreams. If you want to lose weight see yourself at that point where you lost weight. Visualize all aspects and remember to incorporate what you feel like with your success. The feelings count a lot in visualization. If you want to meet your soulmate, create that person in your mind as you fall asleep, see every aspect of that person and feel how that love is resonating for you. You can go back to a time in your life when you were totally in love and recreate those feelings in the visualization. Open your heart and feel that love and how it resonates for you. When you wake up in the morning, those wonderful positive thoughts will start your day off on the right foot.  

4.  Written intention:

A written intention is a mental state that represents a commitment to carrying out an action, or actions, for a future goal and is written out on what you want to obtain. It’s powerful beyond anyone’s imagination in helping us obtain our dreams.  Your written intention goes out into God’s vast universe and that energy does come back. Write out a letter of where you see yourself with your dream in a year. Put all the details into the letter, along with thoughts and feelings. Then put the letter away. You put your intention out there and now you will create a game plan.

4. Prayer & Meditation:

I believe in the power of prayer and meditation. Pray for what you want to manifest in your life. After all, God put that dream in your heart. Prayer is also putting positive energy into God’s ears. Meditation is getting quiet enough to hear God’s whisper within. That whisper within is your higher power speaking to you through intuition. The learn more about this power, my book, The Third Road will guide you.

5. Game plan:

Of course, you also have to have a game plan, a way to map out how you will achieve your goals and dreams. It’s important to really sit down and think about the road that will take you to a successful outcome. Look at how other people achieved their goals and try to learn from their road map.

Try to be grateful for everything you have, and everything you want. Do a gratitude list daily. Make a list of at least 5 things you were grateful for in that day. And also make a list of things you are grateful for that you want in life. Being grateful will bring more goodness into your life.

In closing, remember, you are never too old to have a dream. Louise Hay started a successful publishing company at the age of 58. Judi Dench, famous British actress didn’t achieve fame until she was over 60. At the age of 62 James Parkinson identified Parkinson’s disease. Getting older is like a fine wine, we get better as we age.

If you follow these steps you can manifest your dreams into reality.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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