How to Transform Your Life with Your Thoughts - Rachel Devine

Our thoughts are more powerful than we can truly imagine. Ancient wisdom and modern science confirm that thoughts wield tremendous power to shape our lives and world. By mastering your mindset and programming your subconscious beliefs, you unlock the ability to manifest your ideal existence. However, as a society, we don’t harness this incredible inner power, and some of us grow into mediocre existences. Let’s take a look at the power of your mind and how it can help manifest your dreams into reality. Let’s look at how to transform your life with your thoughts.

Powerful thoughts

According to psychology trailblazer William James, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” Our interpretations and beliefs surrounding circumstances drive outcomes more than events themselves.

The power of our thoughts has the ability to transform our lives into one of purpose and meaning. The key is to feed the mind positive, motivational thoughts. This will lay the groundwork for success in any area. Afterall, I think at the core of everyone is a desire to live life on purpose. It all starts with the power of your thoughts.

Subconscious programming

Over 95% of our behaviors operate from the subconscious, according to experts. This is an astounding revelation. Our subconscious mind holds all our past experiences, traumas and feelings. The conscious mind only controls about 5% of our life. Therefore, most of our lives are going in the direction of past thoughts and feelings. However, you can change the subconscious mind to a positive one. This means deliberately impressing empowering and positive beliefs into your subconscious mind to create a successful and purposeful life.

Joseph Murphy author of The Power of Your Subconscious Mind said, “Whatever your conscious mind assumes and believes to be true, your subconscious mind will accept and bring to pass. Believe in good fortune, divine guidance, right action, and all the blessings of life.”

Therefore, it is crucial to feed your subconscious mind positive thoughts. The more you focus on lack, dread, or fear, the more lack, dread, and fearful situations will come into your life. On the other hand, if you constantly feed your mind positive, motivational thoughts, your life will go in positive, motivational directions. This is the manifesting law of attraction premise. What we put out into the vast universe through thoughts and words comes back to us, like we are in an echo chamber.

Manifesting method

Neville Goddard was a genius in the field of subconscious mind. He said this powerful quote in his book, Feeling is the Secret.

“The conscious generates ideas and impresses these ideas on the subconscious; the subconscious receives ideas and gives form and expression to them. Ideas are impressed on the subconscious through the medium of feelings. No idea can be impressed on the subconscious until it is felt, but once felt – be it good, bad, or indifferent, - it must be expressed.” (By the subconscious into form).

The most powerful time to impress upon the subconscious mind is at night, just before you fall asleep. Imagine one image in your mind of what you want to manifest, and fall asleep with the feelings. For instance, if you want to meet your soulmate, envision one image with your soulmate already in your life and fall asleep with the feelings of love, security, happiness, etc. Your motivation thoughts before bedtime is the key. It is recommended to do this every night for 30 days to manifest your dreams into reality.

Manifesting tools

Commit to rituals that keep your conscious mind filled with positive affirmations, visualizations, inspiration, and mindfulness. Meditation, expressing gratitude, reading uplifting works, repeating mantras—these habits sustain focus on creating your ideal life.

Affirmations are positive words that will impress your subconscious. Write a few on a sticky note and post them where you can view them daily. Visualizations are a perfect way to empower you. Just visualize the outcome you want in a meditation. For instance, if you want to lose weight, imagine yourself slim. Or if you want to stop an addiction, envision yourself free from the addiction. Invoke feelings into your visualization because it is the feelings of the thoughts that penetrate the subconscious mind.

Gratitude is always at the center of success. Always resonate with being grateful for what you have rather than complaining about what you don’t have. Remember, you will attract what you are resonating with.

In conclusion, with this enormous awareness, you can shift to a different way of thinking. Positive thinking, visualizations, affirmations, and being grateful are tools in order to create the life of your dreams. The life you imagine through empowering thoughts, energizing beliefs, mindfulness, and repetition grows ever more concrete. Never underestimate the magic within your mind.

And this great quote by Norman Vincent Peale sums it up beautifully, “Change your thoughts and you change your world.”

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, both on Amazon. My new book on the inner child will be out very soon.

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Taming the Terror of the Inner Child: Embracing Peace with your Past - Rachel Devine

We all have a wounded inner child from past experiences. Some of us have a higher degree of inner child wounds than others. The wounded inner child, carrying unresolved hurts and fears from the past, can wreak havoc through self-sabotage, anxiety, fears, rage, or addiction in your current world. It can literally be a terrifying experience to encounter the rage of the inner child. There can be unexplained tantrums that happen because of past experiences that erupt out of nowhere. Your decisions in life can be thwarted by your inner child's fears that you are totally unaware of. You might have an addiction that you can’t break as well. However, making peace with this hurt inner part of yourself brings harmony. With love and understanding, the inner child’s tantrums can give way to tranquility and your life will be happy again.

The Wounded Inner Child

According to psychologist and bestselling author John Bradshaw, “We have the need to be respected and understood by our inner children, who still exert a tremendous influence on our everyday lives.” That inner child lives within all of us. When the inner child feels threatened or invalidated, it lashes out in unconscious ways rooted in old defenses or trauma responses in the present day moment. It wreaks havoc with relationships and family and can cause trouble in your work environment.

For example, the inner child may manifest in the present as excessive people-pleasing due to past neglect or doing good deeds to get attention. The inner child pain from the past can be overwhelming and one might numb their emotions through overeating, alcohol, or drugs. These maladaptive patterns provide short-term relief but long-term suffering. There is always this feeling that there is a gaping hole within, and it needs to be fed with drugs, alcohol, people, food, work, or some other way to numb the pain and fill the void. It’s a vicious cycle.

Bradshaw advises, “We must listen to our inner child to find our personal truth.” Only through compassionate inner dialog can you integrate these fragmented parts back into the whole.

Inner Child Healing Meditation

It takes courage to face wounded parts of yourself, but the rewards of inner peace await. Strategies like journaling, talk therapy, and visualization can help reconcile with the inner child. Meditations are also helpful. John Bradshaw boldy suggest going back into your childhood home and sitting with your inner child as a way to be the loving parent of the child. You can recognize a particular time in your childhood where there was trauma and go back in your mind to reparent and love your inner child, offering support and healing. This meditation will work wonders in your present world and bring you some peace. However, it’s like peeling an onion; there are layers of pain from the past that need healing. This inner child work is crucial. The more meditations you do, the more healing will occur.

Have patience, speak reassuringly, and let the inner child be heard. Help reframe old fears and beliefs that no longer serve your adult growth. The goal is not to banish but to integrate the inner child with compassion into your present-day life.

Love your Inner Child

Love can move mountains and heal the most advanced case of inner child dilemma. Love is the answer. Loving yourself is loving your inner child. We need more love in the world, but we also need more love in our own world. Sitting and nurturing your inner child is the most loving thing you can do. Encourage self-care in your life. You probably do a lot of wonderful things for others; do those things for yourself. The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. I suggest you get a picture of yourself as a child, put it where you can see it daily, and tell that child how much you are loved.

Mindfulness

It’s important to see the patterns from childhood that affect your life as an adult. Being mindful of what is happening in your life is crucial. Staying in the moment and really seeing what is happening is important, rather than just getting wrapped up in your daily routine without any contemplation. If you have an outburst or can’t lose weight or stop an addiction, it’s time to shine a light to focus on the origin of the problem. It’s important to see the correlation from childhood and present day issues. When you do connect with that little child, you can open up a whole new world of healing. At times, I can actually feel my inner child raging. Those are the times I need to listen very carefully to because something from my past is coming into my present day to get my attention. The key is to listen to it and then act upon it, with the aforementioned meditations, in calming the inner child through loving reparenting techniques.

Inner child therapy

If you have intense anger issues, fears from the past, or addictions, it is a good idea to see a therapist that specializes in the inner child. Opening up the pandora’s box of inner child trauma can be overwhelming. A good therapist is crucial to inner healing. There are many techniques that help clear the brain of past trauma. One very successful tool is brainspotting. It helps bring out the trauma from the subcortical brain to release it. Once the trauma is released it will not have an adverse influence on you anymore.

In conclusion, you possess everything you need to create internal ceasefires. With care and wisdom, you can guide the inner child to trust life again. With the right therapist, and inner child work, healing is possible. Meet this sacred part of yourself with empathy. Connect with your inner child and be the emotionally supportive parent you may never have had. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship you will ever have. You have the power to set the stage for profound healing. Once the healing begins, peace will reign in your adult world and you will be free from the terror of the inner child.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, both on Amazon. My new book on the inner child will be out very soon, called Discover the Power of the Secret Within.

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Tapping Into the Power of Your Subconscious Mind - Rachel Devine

The subconscious mind is like an untapped reservoir of insights, creativity, and solutions waiting below the surface. It’s also a place that holds your past experiences and trauma. It’s important to learn techniques to access this inner wisdom that can help unlock your greatest potential. And to access and clear away any negative experiences from the past. The subconscious mind holds the key to your success or failure in life because it does drive your life 95% of the time! You can tell what is happening in your subconscious mind by what direction your life is going in.

Defining the Subconscious Realm

According to psychologist Carl Jung, “the subconscious mind is the part of our mind that is largely hidden and operates automatically and continuously.” The subconscious mind stores everything it has experienced but floats outside conscious awareness. It’s like a giant memory bank, holding all your secrets from the past. Tapping into it enhances intuition. However, there are also trauma and past hurts locked away. Most people don’t realize why their life is going in a bad direction and the answer lies in your past and what your subconscious mind picked up. The question is, was it negative or positive?

As neuroscientist Dr. Caroline Leaf explained, “Your subconscious is the personal guide of your life. It stores everything that has ever happened to you and uses all that information to advise you on your path forward.”

Connecting Through Visualization

Visualization helps bridge the subconscious and conscious minds. Athletes like Michael Phelps regularly visualize the perfect execution of their sport. This imprints neural patterns into the subconscious mind that the body follows.

Visualize your goals fulfilled as if they were already here. Keep images positive to manifest desired outcomes. Imagery taps into the subconscious language of symbols, metaphors, and dreams. The feelings are important to penetrate the subconscious mind. Positive feelings are the key to bring positive results into your life. One way to do that is by living in gratitude. Gratitude is a positive state of being. Additionally, positive affirmations is a great tool to help you put positive thoughts into your subconscious mind. Just say them out loud often in your day.

The Wisdom in Dreams

Dreams provide glimpses into subconscious depths. Keep a dream journal and reflect on the symbols that arise. Recurring elements signal weakness or strengths needing awareness.

As psychologist Sigmund Freud stated, “The interpretation of dreams is the royal road to a knowledge of the unconscious activities of the mind.” Dive into this inner sea of wisdom nightly. This will bring you much insight and can transform your life.

Aligning Intuition and Logic

Hone your intuition through meditation and time in nature away from sensory distraction. Reduce mental chatter to help subtle intuitive whispers emerge. A walk in nature can do wonders for the subconscious mind in getting in touch with your intuition, that deep rooted voice within.

Then synthesize your intuitive thoughts with conscious logic and planning. As Einstein said, “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift; the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” Try to balance both.

Creative Play and Flow

Playfulness awakens openness to receiving inspiration through unplanned discovery. Creative flow arises when the critical conscious mind relaxes its grip.

As leadership author Daniel Pink advised, “There is a link between wonder and wisdom. The curious are granted secret wisdom.” Follow curiosity with childlike playfulness to tap into your inner sage.

By learning to access the riches buried in your subconscious mind, you amplify wisdom, imagination, and discernment. You can also unlock and clear away past wounds that drive our life in a negative direction. Your logically conscious mind gains a profound partner when you blend intuitive gifts with reason and behold the power within. This awareness is empowering for the path your life can go in.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, both on Amazon.

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What Force is driving your Life? The Answer will Shock you! - Rachel Devine

Each day, you make decisions and move in a certain direction in your life. Sometimes we wonder why we do certain things that cause us pain and adversity, and yet we don’t know why we make these negative decisions. At a certain point you might ask yourself, “Is my life all wrong?” Some of us may self-sabotage a perfectly good life. And others might have no luck in love. You might have no luck with overcoming an addiction, losing weight, or getting healthy. But is it luck, or is something else driving your life? Is there something within you that is steering your life in a negative direction? Well, the answer to that question is, frankly, yes! The shocking truth is that we are in control and we are not in control. Your life is being driven by a force within. I will explain what this all means and show you sure-fire ways to offset it. Let’s look at this premise more closely.

Subconscious mind

Let’s look at how the subconscious mind works. Our subconscious mind is like a giant computer memory card. It holds all your experiences, feelings, and traumas from the past. It actually holds all of your experiences. Now, many experts say that the subconscious mind drives your life 95% of the time. Therefore, the subconscious mind is in charge of your day-to-day life! When you get up each morning and make breakfast, brush your teeth, and check your emails, there is little thought given to doing these routine tasks. The subconscious mind is driving your routine. Additionally, the subconscious mind is behind the decisions you make in life. And to be very clear, the subconscious mind is not accessible to the conscious mind. In other words, you can’t detect what the subconscious mind is thinking. If you have a lot of negativity from the past and can’t move forward in life, it could be because of what was fed into your subconscious mind from the past. Make no mistake about it, the force driving your life is your subconscious mind.

Conscious mind

Let’s look at how your conscious mind works. Your conscious mind is in touch with all your thoughts, feelings, and wishes at any given moment. You can connect with this aspect of your mind. However, remember, this only drives our lives 5% of the time. So when you make a negative decision, continue to meet unacceptable potential partners, have an anger issue, or can’t lose weight, the reason behind these outcomes is locked away in the subconscious mind.

The Fix

The most logical thing to do would be to alter the subconscious mind to a positive state so your life will move in a positive direction. If you want to rid yourself of issues that are blocking you from having a great life, you must reprogram your subconscious mind. There are many techniques that can help, from inner child therapy to brainspotting, hypnosis and manifestations. These techniques help you get in touch with the subconscious mind to clear the channels in the subconscious mind for whatever is blocking your success. Clearing the channels of negativity will help your life move in a positive direction and, in a sense, help you take back some control over the direction of your life and bring you happiness.

Reprogram your subconscious mind

The easiest way to get started with reprogramming the subconscious mind is by manifestations. The most fascinating aspect of manifesting is that whatever you feed your subconscious mind will reprogram the mind so you can reach your goals and dreams. According to an expert in this field, Neville Goddard, whatever you feed the subconscious mind will eventually become form. Give that a second to sink in. In other words, the subconscious mind drives your life by 95% of the time, so it makes sense that if you feed your subconscious mind feelings on what direction you want your life to go in, then it stands to reason your life will go in that direction. The key is to put positive feelings into your subconscious mind to override the negative ones. You do have the power to transform your life! I still encourage you to get a therapist to help you with clearing parts of your subconscious mind in order to move life in a positive direction. The manifesting is just a start.

Manifesting techniques

Neville Goddard uses an example for manifesting your goals into reality. The mind is most powerful in the sleeping state, which is an unconscious state. What you feed your subconscious mind will resonate in your mind for 8 hours as you sleep. Therefore, the most powerful time to feed the subconscious mind what you want is just before you fall asleep. However, please note, the feelings that are put into your unconscious mind during sleep is what clears the subconscious mind and allows it to manifest what you want.

Here is a step-by-step guide to manifesting what you want or what you want to change:

If you want to change anger issues to one of tranquility, you will create an image of the peaceful state you want to be in as you fall asleep with the feelings of being at peace. Remember, it is the feelings that the subconscious mind picks up. That is how to manifest your dreams. You also want to envision your image as if it already happened.

For instance, if you want to manifest an event in your life, you would imagine that the event has already happened. Neville uses a person wanting a promotion as an example. The image shows a person shaking his hand to get the promotion. The feelings could be of security, value, love, and a sense of happiness. You would fall asleep with those feelings. The next day, you should wake up hopeful and positive because you fed your subconscious mind with positive feelings. Do this for at least 30 days. The power of manifesting what you want in life is unlimited. You should start to see positive changes in your life.

You can do the same process if you want to stop smoking, lose weight, or have success, basically for anything you want to obtain in life. Just put an image of let’s say how you would look if you lost weight and fall asleep with the feelings of being healthy, well-being, being happy and content.

In closing, I want to say just having the awareness that there is another aspect of your mind that drives your life is empowering. Now that you have this information, it is up to you on what you do with it. Don’t let this moment slip away with action towards healing your life. You can do this, it’s just about getting started.

I have several digital videos and guides on my website that can help you with the manifestation process. I am also available to coach you through this process.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, available on Amazon.

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How to Heal your Inner Child: Awareness is key - Rachel Devine

Do you have long-forgotten dreams that you want to make a reality? Do you want to lose weight, start a business, find your soulmate, or get a promotion? Well, now is the time to move forward and make your dreams a reality. Make no mistake about it; you have this miraculous power within you to create your destiny.

However, there can be blocks to realizing your dreams. There is another power called the subconscious mind that is in charge of every decision, every move, and every thought you make in life. Most people have no idea why they have a chip on their shoulder, why they keep meeting the same type of dysfunctional romantic partner, why they have issues at work, or why they have deep-rooted resentments, and the answer lies within. Discovering this aspect of yourself with awareness will empower you to transform your life in a positive way.

Inner Child

Your inner child is your feelings, traumas, and anger that are part of the power of your subconscious mind, which has been picking up messages way before it was able to fully process what was going on (mentally and emotionally). Your inner child usually didn’t get their needs met as a baby, and this plays havoc in adulthood in so many ways.

Subconscious mind

The subconscious mind holds all your emotions, memories, experiences, traumas, and beliefs from the past. This dual force, the subconscious mind and inner child, drives your life 95% of the time! This is an astounding fact, and yet most people have no idea what is going on inside. Therefore, your actions, 95% of the time, are driven by your subconscious mind. Just to bring this down to simple terms: When you get up each morning and, as a routine, brush your teeth, eat breakfast, and check your emails, this is all done by the subconscious mind. Most of your decisions are also dictated by your subconscious mind.

Healthy or unhealthy

The big question now is: Is your inner child healthy or unhealthy? If you didn’t get your primary needs met between the infant stage and 7 years old, then your subconscious mind is not well. This means you could have relationship, work, or family issues. Having this awareness and awakening the inner child is the first step to healing. Once you can recognize what transpired in childhood, you will start to see patterns in your adult decisions and experiences.

Healing

Healing is possible if you change some of the negativity of the subconscious mind to one of positivity. It stands to reason that if you had any trauma from the past, it will get imbedded in your subconscious mind as an imprint and will unleash itself at different times of trigger in your life.

As an example, you may have grown up with some abandonment issues from a parent who was not there for you during little league games and other important events in your life. You may not have gotten the love you deserved. The child becomes angry but usually can’t get in touch with the anger, so it gets repressed. It sits in the body and subconscious mind. Now, as an adult, this person drinks alcohol and becomes violent towards his partner because the repressed anger is unleashed during drunken episodes.

Solutions

It’s possible to heal the subconscious mind by getting therapy from an inner child expert who will help you get in touch with repressed anger. There are also fear issues that are imbedded in the subconscious in various forms. Again, a therapist can help with this as well. Also, listening to some videos that help replace fears with love or those that help release repressed anger can also help. However, one thing is very clear: if you have anger issues or fears, they usually stem from the inner child’s past experiences. Even clearing one issue can transform your life for the better.

Manifesting for healing

A gentle and easy way to heal from inner child wounds is manifestation. It is a way to clear the subconscious mind of anger or fears. Manifestation before you fall asleep is a power technique because the mind is at its most powerful just as you are falling asleep. What you feed it can change the subconscious mind because you are going from a conscious to an unconscious state when you are asleep. This is the most powerful time. Your mind has 8 hours to resonate with what you put in it. You want to feed it with feelings of love if you want to overcome hate or courage to overcome fear. Whatever the adult emotional problem, you want to offset it with the positive opposite emotion. Manifesting is powerful.

Just picture an image of the positive emotion you want to inject into your subconscious mind and fall asleep with the positive feelings of the emotion. If you want to invoke love into your subconscious mind, perhaps fall asleep to an image of a heart and resonate with loving feelings. It is a way to change one layer of the subconscious mind so you will be able to reach your life goals of losing weight, being successful, or having good relationships.

In closing, awareness is the key to helping you clear up some inner child issues that can be causing havoc in your adult life. Once you have the awareness, you have choices on healing, from a therapist to perhaps a life coach to manifesting techniques. I suggest you don’t just walk away from this awareness. Rather, embrace it and start healing your inner child today so you can live the life of your dreams.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, and she has a new book coming out very soon on the inner child.

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Overcoming Adversity: Turn Challenges into Opportunities - Rachel Devine

Everyone encounters adversity at one time or another in life. However, the many hurdles life throws your way need not break you; viewed properly, they could empower you. Hardships can excavate fortitude and wisdom you never knew you had. With faith, courage, and perseverance, you will transform trials into triumphs. Overcoming adversity can lead to new strength and new learning experiences.

Maintaining Perspective

When adversity strikes, acknowledge the obstacle while also maintaining perspective. As President Lincoln weathered the storm of civil war, he stated, “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” Look for the hidden roses; they’re always there. This is where the lessons are.

Reframing Setbacks

View obstacles as detours rather than dead ends. Each obstacle can become a stepping stone to success. Each failed solution or roadblock creates feedback to refine your approach going forward. Thomas Edison famously required 1,000 attempts to perfect the lightbulb. He stated, “I didn’t fail to make it work; I learned 1000 ways it could not work.” Adjust your trajectory and persist.

Control your response

You have control over how you view a challenge. You retain power over how you perceive hardships. Do not permit external events to dictate internal reactions from the past. Stand tall in the solution. As Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl wrote, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances.” Your response determines your growth.

Ask for help

During dark nights of the soul, we all need support. This is when our faith is not within our reach and we need to have support. Perhaps you can reach out to loved ones, communities, or experts. Help-seeking requires courage, not weakness. As Helen Keller put it, “I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet.” Maintain perspective to transform your life.

Look inward

Adversity often signals time for inner work. Reflect on what needs healing. Examine unconscious beliefs that exacerbate the situation. Conduct an honest spiritual inventory. Let challenges push you deeper into your character strengths. You can do some meditations to look within. Remember, there are spiritual solutions, that can emerge, in our connection to God through meditation.

Have faith

Remember, this too shall pass. Have faith that, while you may not see the solution now, you will emerge wiser with time. Stay the course and stay in prayer. Keep your focus on the solution, not the problem. As the Bible counsels, “Consider it all joy when you encounter various trials, because the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” Allow your trials to deepen their roots.

By standing firm through the storm, you earn the right to shout from the mountaintops, having conquered the climb. Challenges awaken courage, resilience, faith, tenacity and empowerment, that can be forged no other way. Adversity often prepares you for destinies you can’t yet see. Learning the lesson in the storm is a gift. With vision and vigor, your obstacles will empower you.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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Do you Need a Faith-Lift? - Rachel Devine

As the world revolves around inflation, war, political unrest, and life challenges, it’s time to get a faith lift. Faith lifts us up in a way that brings grounding peace during turmoil. Where can one turn when things are bleak? And the answer is our faith. We can feel faith in many different areas of life, from a walk in nature to music, a quiet time with candles, houses of worship, prayer groups, meditation, prayer, and so much more. And the ultimate goal is to bring some peace and happiness into your life.

Let’s look at where we can get this faith boost:

Place of worship

The most obvious place to get a faith lift would be a place of worship. This is a place where like-minded people go to be nourished. It is an important place to find the peace of your higher power, whom I call God. God is love, God is peace, and we can connect to that in our place of worship. There is also a sense of community in a church or synagogue. If you have the opportunity to join a prayer group, that will bring a new dimension of faith into your life.

A nature walk

Some people embrace faith in the landscape as they take a walk in nature. Being in nature brings a sense of spirituality that invokes peace. Remember, your higher power is peace. Some people can embrace a cherry blossom and feel the spirit of God within that tree. Perhaps you feel faith in a burst of a sunrise or a beautiful sunset. It’s all about perspective.

Music

Music brings a sense of joy and love to people. Listening to spiritual music, or music that nurtures a sense of connection, is a way for some people to find their higher power or faith. Find your peace in music as you detach from the woes of the world and embrace the magical essence of the moment. You can also light some scented candles, as you sit and enjoy your music.

Power of prayer

I believe strongly in the power of prayer, as I have seen it in action in my own life many times. Praying is a way to offset the challenges in our lives and lift us up to new ways of coping with them. Prayer also brings on a sense of serenity and a feeling of letting go of the challenge. Giving our troubles to God in prayer is a perfect way to feel acceptance and peace.

Gratitude

Gratitude is a magical wand that helps make the world a better place. When we live in gratitude, there is a sense of contentment. As the adage goes, “Count your blessings and embrace the lessons.” Even in dark times, we can embrace the lessons and be grateful for all we have. Gratitude is an extension of our faith.

Embrace the moment

What all of the aforementioned methods have in common is that they bring a person to being in the moment. When you are in the moment, you can connect to your higher power. God is only in the moment. God is not in the past or the future; he is only in this very moment. The power of the moment is magical. Connecting to God through worship, walking in nature, music, prayer and gratitude are all ways of connecting you to the moment, where the power of the universe resides and is waiting to bring you peace.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack.

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Standing Up to Bullies: Protecting Yourself from Harm - Rachel Devine

Bullying can happen anywhere—in the classroom, workplace, social media, or beyond. But victims are never powerless. Understanding bullying behaviors, along with assertive communication and proactive reporting, allows you to regain control. With courage and support, the torment can end.

How bullies operate

Bullies tend to share similar tactics, like:

• Intimidation through threats, name-calling, or public embarrassment

• Isolating victims by turning peers against them

• Spreading lies, rumors, or secrets to damage reputations

• Physical harassment or violence in some cases

• Forcing demands upon or stealing from their targets

Their actions stem from a desire for power and control combined with a lack of empathy. Standing up to them peacefully robs them of the response they crave.

Confronting a school bully

If you are the target at school, let a trustworthy teacher know about both physical and non-physical harassment. Many schools have anonymous tip lines. Offer specific evidence, like texts or witnesses, if comfortable. Avoid trying to handle it alone.

If the bully is dangerous, the best defense is to ignore him/her. If you feel safe, you can also be direct with measured calm. Say, “I want us to have a respectful relationship. The bullying needs to stop.” This resets boundaries and expectations. Again, only do this if you feel safe doing it.

Dealing with a Bully at Work

If there is a workplace bully, document all incidents thoroughly. Notify your manager or HR providing evidence. You can say, “Your hostile behavior undermines morale and productivity.”

Suggest implementing company-wide anti-bullying policies if absent. Seek their intervention or have an impartial mediator address it. Transferring teams may be an option.

Protect yourself online

Cyberbullying is common on social media. Do not engage or retaliate. Block accounts that abuse you. Report them to the platform administrators for review.

Tighten security settings so only approved followers see posts. Disable location sharing and limit contact information visibility. Avoid oversharing personal details publicly.

Stay connected to positive support networks. Seek counseling if cyberbullying causes severe distress.

Standing United

There is always hope to overcome bullying, especially by joining together. Support others facing similar situations and speak up when witnessing mistreatment. This eliminates the isolation bullies rely on. Your courage inspires courage in others. When you support each other and speak out together with others who are being bullied, you stand united, and there is power in numbers.

If all else fails, just remove yourself from the bully and move on with dignity and courage.

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Anger Management: Overcoming Rage and Resentments - Rachel Devine

Anger often wells up automatically in response to life’s frustrations. But frequently, its roots trace back to childhood programming and what was fed into the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind holds most of our experiences, traumas, and feelings. The subconscious mind drives our life 95% of the time! That is an astounding figure. In other words, our anger can come from past experiences buried in our minds, or, as we call it, repressed anger.

Examining anger’s origins and proactively reconditioning your responses provides a pathway to inner peace. Sometimes we can actually see a pattern between childhood experiences and present-day anger. It’s important to look for any patterns that are familiar from childhood when anger arises. And remember, you only have control over your own life. This fact will bring you much happiness. Let’s look at some anger management techniques.

Resentments

When we allow anger to build up, it creates resentments. Over time, the resentments turn into instant anger. You could be in a marriage, and you have built up resentments throughout the years. Your partner can just walk into the room, and you want to go for their jugular. This is the worst-case scenario with resentments. This built-up anger can get unleashed at inappropriate times when triggered. There could also be unresolved anger from childhood that rears its ugly head from time to time. It’s important to get in touch with your anger, especially if it is out of control. A therapist can help you get to the root of the anger and resentments. A life coach can also be a valuable resource.

Childhood influences

Many experts attribute excessive anger to unresolved childhood pain, invalidation, neglect, or trauma. Suppressed emotions from past abuse or neglect can manifest as pent-up rage. Anger also arises when a parent is not emotionally there to nurture a child at the crucial infant to seven year old stage. If a child doesn’t get their fundamental needs met, they can not only become angry adults but also plagued by fears of abandonment. These fears stop us from making major decisions in life, especially in relationships. For instance, if one is in an abusive marriage, the subconscious mind may be dictating for that person to stay in the abusive marriage because leaving will set off fears of abandonment from childhood, which would be very painful for the inner child. Remember, the subconscious mind is driving your life decisions.

Making the connection between past experiences and current anger can be illuminating. The inner child still carries unresolved wounds and beliefs, often exerting unwanted influence from the subconscious mind. Remember, the subconscious mind holds most of our experiences, feelings, and traumas. Sometimes anger triggers our subconscious.

Let’s look at this example of road rage:

When someone cuts you off, do you go from fear to rage in an instant? This is very telling, as it indicates unresolved anger from the past that gets triggered by fear and usually morphs into raging anger.

Thought Pattern Triggers

Cognitive-behavioral therapists point to ingrained thought patterns like catastrophizing, unfair bias, imagined slights, and exaggerating harms that spark anger episodes. Such beliefs often originate in childhood and then operate unconsciously into the present moment.

Catching and reframing anger-inducing thoughts is key. Ask yourself, “Is my reaction warranted or out of proportion based on the facts of this situation?” This objectivity defuses rage. If the rage is bigger than the situation warrants, then chances are the rage is coming from the inner child and some past unresolved anger.

Childhood experiences example:

A young boy lives his whole life yearning for his father’s love. However, his father is an alcoholic and doesn’t have anything to give to his son. Throughout the years, the boy built up intense anger towards his father. Fast-forward to when the boy is an adult and married. He also has issues with alcohol, and when he drinks, his rage comes out, and he becomes violent towards his wife. This is just one example of why it’s so important to get rid of the repressed anger, that comes from his childhood.

Anger management techniques:

• Breathe consciously when anger arises, and pause before responding. In the gap of your pause lies the power to choose wisely, because the gap is where the peace of God resides.

• Voice anger appropriately when it arises in your day-to-day life, rather than suppressing it or having outbursts. Set boundaries calmly. Open communication is key.

• Accept that others’ behaviors are beyond your control; only your response matters. This reduces resentment.

• Avoid using anger meant for an original source from the past on innocent bystanders.

• Forgive yourself and others to unlock compassion and love. This neutralizes rage. And be aware that we are all humans subjected to making mistakes.

Let go and let God

One of the most liberating aspects of anger is realizing you don’t have control over anyone but yourself. Acceptance in any situation is the key to serenity. Additionally, some of us get angry when we can’t control the outcome of a situation. Remember, you don’t have control over people, and if you think you do, it’s an illusion. Many people labeled ‘control freaks’ are angry people. At a certain point, it is crucial to realize you don’t have control over anyone. If there is a situation with a loved one that you want to fix, stop and realize you can only fix yourself. This fact is very liberating and allows one to live their own life without feeling as if they have to control other people in their circle. Remember, acceptance equals serenity. Hand it over to your higher power, whom I call God. Imagine wrapping your loved one in a blanket and handing that person to your higher power. Remember, that person has their own higher power to guide them in life.

In closing, I want to reiterate that anger is an inevitable part of life and only becomes problematic when disproportionate, misdirected, or unexamined. But self-inquiry, conscious response, and addressing childhood wounds give you increasing power over anger’s hold. Also, it may sound strange, but punching a pillow when angry can help release the anger so it doesn’t get unleashed on an innocent bystander, like a co-worker, a child, or a pet. You could be angry with a rude clerk in the morning and then go home and yell at your child for something minor. Awareness is always the key to stopping irrational behaviors. And acceptance of the things we cannot change is always the key to peace.

In the great words of Thomas Jefferson, “When angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, count to a hundred.”

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, and both are available now on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Or you can order an ebook on my website.

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Battling Addiction: 5 Ways to Break the Cycle - Rachel Devine

Addiction takes on many forms, from food to work to drugs, nicotine, and so much more. Addiction can take a powerful hold physically, mentally, and emotionally. But no matter how hopeless it may seem, many paths exist to escape addiction’s grasp. It requires courage, honesty, and using every resource at your disposal. The challenges we face in life can be overwhelming. However, having an addiction in your life will bring more challenges. There are solutions to battling our vices and ways to find happiness in the obstacles.

The first step is honestly recognizing that you have an addiction that is challenging you. Whether it is a food addiction, nicotine, or perhaps alcoholism, these are all life-threatening vices. Whatever the addiction, the first step is admitting you are powerless and that your life has become unmanageable. This is the first step in any 12-step program. Coming to terms with the vice you have is key to breaking the addiction.

Your story

Look at your story when it comes to addiction. If you are trying to lose weight or get off sugar and your story goes like this, “I tried everything to lose weight and give up sugar and nothing is working," you might want to change that story to, “I am willing to do anything to get this weight off and stop eating sugar." You see the big difference, from a negative standpoint to a positive one. Make no mistake about it; your life will move in a positive direction if you feed it positive words. This will help transform your life.

Another example would be, “I can’t stop drinking; it’s in my genes and a generational curse.” This can be changed to say, “I have to look at avenues other people have taken to stop drinking and implement them in my life now.”

No matter how bleak your situation is, it’s better to have a positive viewpoint than a negative one. The positive one will propel you in the direction of healing.

12-step program

Once you admit you have a problem, the next step is to seek professional help or join a 12-step program. There are programs such as AA for alcoholism, NA for nicotine addictions, and OA for overeaters. There are online resources for any 12-step program you seek help with. 12-step programs have been helpful for millions of people. Therapy is also a great way to get help for addictions. Having a life coach in your corner can help as well.

“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” John Pierpont Morgan

Remove Temptations

Cut ties with toxic relationships or environments that trigger substance use. Avoiding bars, parties, bakeries, or places frequented when engaging in addiction reduces temptation and reminds you how far you’ve come. Perhaps you want to engage with new friends in a 12-step program. Also, try to keep healthy food in your home; get rid of the alcohol or anything else that will tempt you to stay with the vice. This will make it a little easier.

Adopt healthy habits.

Recovery succeeds best when built on positive new routines like meditation, exercise, journaling, prayer, or music. Simple, healthy daily practices ground you. Channel cravings into these activities instead. Exercise helps activate endorphins, which help people feel good without substances or food. A great tool is to reach out and help someone else. When we help others with their addiction, we find it helps us to take our minds off our own issues, and doing so aides in recovery. Reaching out to help others is a staple in the 12-step world. Prayer is also a way to bring positive energy into your world and stay in faith.

Redirect Thoughts

When addiction cravings surface, immediately shift attention to something positive. Call a friend, play with a pet, work on a hobby, or go for a walk. Refocusing your mind is a skill developed over time. I went to Nicotine Anonymous years ago when I stopped smoking. I remember using a rubber band on my wrist. I would pull the rubber band and gently get a jolt that shifted my thoughts away from wanting to have a cigarette. However, I also incorporated exercise and the nicotine patch to help me with my own vices. The 12-step fellowship really helped me too.

In closing, battling addiction requires absolute commitment, courage to change, and consistent hard work. But it’s important to take that first step: admit there is a problem and seek help. Keep fighting the good fight. The path to recovery starts with ending the denial. You have the power to reclaim your life. The health benefits may add years to your life with your family.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Courage to change the things we can. And the wisdom to know the difference.

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The Power of Gratitude: Transforming Lives - Rachel Devine

Gratitude is a potent emotion that has the remarkable ability to shape our lives positively. It goes beyond a simple "thank you" and extends into a deeper appreciation for the blessings and experiences that enrich our lives. The benefits of gratitude are unlimited. By practicing gratitude, we can unlock a host of benefits that enhance our health, relationships, goals, and overall well-being. The health benefits of gratitude are astounding. The general benefits of gratitude are unlimited. It is important to really focus on how to practice gratitude. In this article, we will explore the incredible advantages of gratitude, discover ways to incorporate gratitude techniques into our lives, and understand how positive thinking and affirmations synergize with gratitude for transformative results.

The health benefits of gratitude

Research has shown that expressing gratitude can have a profound impact on our physical and mental health. The main reason behind the health benefits is the fact that your endorphin levels increase, which reduces cortisol, a stress hormone. Therefore, when we practice gratitude regularly, we experience lower levels of stress, reduced symptoms of anxiety and depression, and improved overall mental well-being. Gratitude also strengthens our immune system, lowers blood pressure, and promotes better sleep. Embracing gratitude can become a powerful tool for cultivating a healthier, happier lifestyle.

Improved mental well-being

Gratitude has been found to have a positive impact on mental health, especially for individuals with depression. It can increase positive emotions such as joy, happiness, and contentment. By focusing on the things they are grateful for, individuals can experience a boost in overall life satisfaction and well-being. Additionally, practicing gratitude has been shown to reduce symptoms of depression, such as sadness and hopelessness. This will bring more happiness into your life.

Gratitude and goal achievement:

Gratitude serves as a catalyst for achieving our goals. By focusing on what we are grateful for, we shift our mindset from scarcity to abundance, and from negativity to positivity. This positive shift enhances our motivation, resilience, and determination to pursue our aspirations. Grateful individuals are more likely to set realistic goals, persist in the face of challenges, and develop a greater sense of self-belief. By recognizing and appreciating our progress and accomplishments, gratitude fuels our drive to continue striving for success. Staying grateful can literally transform your life.

Incorporating gratitude techniques into daily life:

1. Gratitude Journal: The benefits of a gratitude journal are unlimited and will start your day off in a positive way. Set aside a few minutes each day to reflect on and write down things you are grateful for. It could be as simple as a beautiful sunset, a supportive friend, or food on your table. This practice helps cultivate a habit of gratitude and directs your focus towards positivity.

2. Letters: Expressing gratitude is imperative to a positive life. Send your gratitude directly to people who have positively influenced your life. Write heartfelt letters or messages to friends, family, mentors, or colleagues, highlighting specific reasons why you appreciate them. This practice not only strengthens relationships but also deepens your own sense of gratitude.

3. Mindful Gratitude: Engage in mindfulness exercises that involve focusing on the present moment and acknowledging the blessings around you. Whether it's savoring a delicious meal, enjoying a walk in nature, or simply taking deep breaths, mindfulness amplifies gratitude and enhances your overall well-being.

4. Acknowledging Gratitude: It’s also important to let people know how grateful you are to have them in your life. This can be friends, family, or co-workers. Verbalize how grateful you are for having them around, and tell them how much they mean to you. This simple act of kindness can go a long way. Once you express gratitude to someone, you create a domino effect because the person you express gratitude to will likely convey their gratitude to someone else. This is a great way to spread gratitude and positive energy in your world.

Positive Thinking and Affirmations: Positive thinking and affirmations complement gratitude in a powerful way. By consciously choosing positive thoughts and beliefs, we reshape our perspective and attract more positivity into our lives. Affirmations, or positive statements, help change negative aspects of our subconscious mind, reinforcing gratitude and empowering us to overcome self-limiting beliefs. By combining gratitude with positive thinking and affirmations, we create a powerful synergy that fuels personal growth, resilience, and a profound sense of fulfillment.

Gratitude has been a blessing in my life. I mentally list around 20 things I am grateful for each morning. After doing this for several years, I have reprogrammed my mind to not see the glass as half-full or half-empty, but to be grateful for the glass. It has given me the power to move forward with so many goals and dreams, as gratitude is at the forefront of my subconscious mind, which drives our lives either in a positive or negative direction. I relish in the fact that gratitude is at the center of my life.

In closing, gratitude is a transformative force that permeates every aspect of our lives. By embracing gratitude, we unlock a multitude of benefits, including improved physical and mental health, enhanced goal achievement, and strengthened relationships. Incorporating gratitude techniques such as journaling, expressing gratitude to others, and practicing mindfulness can amplify these benefits. When combined with positive thinking and affirmations, gratitude becomes a powerful catalyst for personal growth and fulfillment. So, let us cultivate the habit of gratitude and embark on a journey of profound well-being and joy. An attitude of gratitude will go a long way.

Rachel Devine is the author of, The Third Road & Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, and both are available now on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. Or you can order an ebook on my website.

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How to Find Hope in Dark Times - Rachel Devine

We live in a time where there is great darkness and challenges in our world. We no longer have a feeling of peace, especially with war raging in areas abroad.There is a feeling of uncertainty and perhaps hopelessness. Horror stories that emerge from the news are disturbing, to say the least, and weigh heavily on our wellness. Hope seems to be a forgotten friend.

I will explore how we can find some hope in dark times. I will explore ways to find hope, irrespective of what is happening around us. We can always decide how we view what is going on in the world and in our own world. Do we look for what’s wrong, or do we look for what’s right? Herein lies the key to finding hope. It’s all according to how you view the world.

This article is about finding hope. Let’s look at 5 ways to find hope in dark times:

Your worldview

Your worldview is paramount to having hope in dark times. We can look at things happening from a catastrophic point of view. However, that will only bring us down and really doesn’t help the challenging plight. Now, what if I view the world from the perspective of the good that is happening in the darkness? What if I focus on the humanitarian aid, the people on the ground helping out, possible future changes, and the prayers that are being said? That would offer some light in the darkness and hope in the midst of calamity. How you view the challenges in the world is a choice you can make. Looking for the good that will emerge from the calamity is looking at the world from a different perspective.

Detaching

Detaching from the news for a while will help you find some hope and peace. Watching every little nuance of the atrocities in the world will only keep you in a state of despair and hopelessness. The news can bring you undo fear to a point of not wanting to leave your house. The bad news will assure that you will wallow in the darkness of world affairs rather than the light of hope. The news has one purpose, and that is to sell. The majority of what they are selling is bad news, and if you wallow in that, it will be difficult to find any hope. The news will bring you the worst possible situations, and when you are done watching, you might feel depleted and anxious. That is the time to turn it off. Believe me, the world will keep spinning on its axis whether you watch the news or not. In other words, don’t be a participant in the dictates of a news program that causes a feeling of despair. Allow yourself 10 minutes to catch up on the news, and then do yourself a favor and turn it off. Perhaps reading a book or some quotes on finding happiness will help turn things around.

Prayer = hope and peace

Prayer is the equalizer in times of challenge. Prayer can bring you to a place of hope in an instant. Let’s look at how to find hope in God. When we pray, we are in the moment of our prayer, and that brings a lot of comfort and hope. God can only be found in the moment. He is not in the past or the future; he is in this very sacred moment. When we are in a prayerful state, we are connected to the peace of God. Darkness disappears when in prayer. It's like shining a flashlight in a dark room. I believe in the power of prayer; therefore, prayer helps me feel at peace and gives me a lot of hope. Remember, you have the power within to offset any darkness in the world. Pray for the world at large.

Finding hope in a support group

Being around people of like mind will help you feel brighter. Join a support group that invokes peace. Perhaps a prayer group, a focus group, a 12-step group, or a group that simply socializes. Getting out and talking to other people helps prevent the power of the chaos from infringing on the mind and also gives a well-deserved break from world affairs. A 12-step group will allow you to voice your feelings about what is happening in the world and in turn it will lose its grip on you. Expressing yourself for a short time is healthy to move on in a hopeful way. These are some ways to find hope and happiness in your life.

Gratitude

In the center of hope lies the enormous power of gratitude. Counting your blessings is a way to shift from feeling hopeless to finding hope. It’s okay to feel fortunate in times of challenge in the world. It’s okay to be grateful for all you have. I suggest you make a gratitude list of at least five things you are grateful for daily and read it out loud in the morning and before you go to bed at night. Going to bed in a peaceful state of gratitude is priceless. It will help you manifest the power of goodness into your life.

Finding hope and peace in dark times is a choice. We all have the power to decide what we allow into our psyche. However, when anxiety becomes the norm it really is time to set some boundaries. And remember, you have the power and the choice to decide what you allow to come into your emotional world.

“In life, we have to be strong and bright enough to face our dark times. Eclipse may come and eclipse may go; nothing should stop our inner strength’s flow." 
― Munia Khan, Attainable

I suggest you stay in that inner strength’s flow, under the tent of God.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships. Both are on Amazon.

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Stop the Pain: 7 Steps to Heal from the Past - Rachel Devine

Painful experiences from childhood or past trauma can cast a shadow over your present-day happiness. It can haunt you for decades. There could be blocks that stop you from moving forward in life due to negative voices in your head that instill fear of repeating the same mistake or falling into the same pitfall. Any past trauma or pain usually gets embedded in the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is very powerful since it directs your life 95% of the time. It makes sense to try to clear some clutter from your mind in order to move forward in life with ease. Through intentional work, you can process old wounds, shift limiting beliefs, and clear subconscious blocks to transform your outlook. The goal is to reach a point of living a happy life.

Let’s look at seven steps to heal from the past.

Awareness

The first step to healing from the past is to have awareness of what might be blocking you from moving forward in life with ease and happiness. I suggest you sit in quiet contemplation and think about what is happening in your life and what transpired in the past that may be causing conflict. Listen to your thoughts. If you continuously have a negative dialogue playing out in your head, that is a clear sign that the past is haunting your present-day peace. Listen to those voices and allow them to come to the surface.

Tell your story

When you speak your story out loud, it loses its power over you. We are only as sick as our secrets. Bringing any past trauma to the light of day helps dissolve its hold on you. You can tell a therapist or a friend. 12-step programs are so valuable and give one the space to speak about past experiences in order to heal from them. There are 12-step programs for most issues, like alcoholism, emotional disorders, smoking, gambling, and the list is endless.

Let go of blame

No matter what happened in the past, blame is not going to help. In fact, a really good practice is forgiveness. When you hold onto past hurts and don’t forgive, the energy gets lodged in the body and causes stress-related illnesses. The venom seeps into your veins with vengeance. The attitude is forgiveness. Forgiveness clears the venom and gets rid of the resentments. Don’t allow someone from the past to continue to victimize you in the present by not forgiving them. Forgive them and let go of the pain. Forgiveness equals happiness.

Release past emotions

Trauma is stored physically and energetically in the body. It is important to release the negative energy that gets lodged in different areas of the body from past trauma. Try therapeutic techniques like EMDR, tapping, massage, or yoga to discharge stuck emotions and reintegrate them. Brain spotting is an amazing way to unlock stored trauma from the subcortical brain, and it clears the area of the trauma.

Reclaim your power

Ultimately, healing requires realizing you are not broken or defined by the past. You have the power to clear inner blocks, rewrite your story, and manifest a joyful life aligned with your highest self. Glancing at the past to heal is a positive step. Lamenting over past hurts is unproductive. Don’t allow the past to define who you are today. We all make mistakes, and life happens in a way that is sometimes unexplainable. Define yourself as a child of God who is worthy of all that life has to offer you. Remember, the power is within you.

Clear the channels

A good way to clear the subconscious mind of trauma is through manifesting techniques. Before you fall asleep at night, pick one image of what you would like to clear from your mind. If you want to clear fear, you would pick an image of love and courage. Love is a very powerful emotion that offsets negative ones. Or if you want to clear past emotional wounds, pick an image of you feeling emotionally happy. Or if you want to clear past physical abuse wounds, imagine a life with peace and calm. We can overshadow the negative in the subconscious mind with powerful positive emotions. Once you pick the image, you fall asleep with the feelings that invoke positivity. Your subconscious mind will resonate with the positive feelings for 8 hours, and this will be one layer of healing in that area. You have the power to transform your life with much healing.

Affirmations

Positive affirmations are another way to change past negativity into positivity. Just write out a few positive affirmations on a sticky note and post them where you can see them. Say them out loud, often. The positive energy will overshadow past negative feelings. Continue to do this every day. Some wonderful affirmations are, I am worthy, I am loved, I am forgiven, I am a child of God, etc.

As spiritual teacher Matt Kahn advised, “Whatever you have gone through, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And it is you.” You must take the first step toward your goal. Then healing will unfold one breath, one moment at a time, through the courage to face and release the past.

One of my favorite authors and healer, Louise Hay said, “You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we're not. We always have the power of our minds. Claim and consciously use your power."

With perseverance and the light of hope, old pain will lose its grip on you. Underneath the shadows of your past, there is a wonderful and amazing person waiting to emerge. Like a caterpillar experiences transformation into a beautiful butterfly, you can also transform your life into one of beauty and strength. And when you do, you will discover who you were always meant to be. Your renewed path ahead awaits.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships. Both books are on Amazon.

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Follow Your Dreams: And don’t let Anything Sway You - Rachel Devine

Following your bliss in life can be so rewarding. Pursuing your dreams brings so much joy. As they say, follow your dreams, they know the way! Choosing a purposeful path in life is the single most fulfilling thing you can accomplish. And yet, there are obstacles that arise and people of opposition that bring us down rather than lift us up. We can also become our worst enemy in pursuing our dreams with self-doubt.

Perseverance is crucial to creating a life of your choosing. Staying in it for the long haul is also crucial.

There are not too many overnight success stories. Most famous people will laugh if you say they are instant success stories, when in actuality, many of them took decades and a lot of blood, sweat, and tears to achieve their dreams.

Let’s explore this a little deeper. I am going to show you how to manifest your dreams with 5 steps.

Pursuing your dreams

The first step is to define what your dreams are. What do you want to pursue in your lifetime? What legacy would you like to leave?

The next step is to look at your story. What are you saying about your dreams?

Here are two examples:

1. I want to become a writer, but I know it is an impossible journey.

2. I want to become a writer, and I am excited about all the possibilities before me.

As you can see, there is a stark difference between 1 and 2. You have to have a positive outlook on the dream you want to pursue. Actually you have to have a positive attitude on anything you want to achieve in life. If you start out with the attitude that becoming a writer is an impossible journey, then your life will go in a negative direction. It will be like being in a circular driveway, driving furiously and getting nowhere. If you are excited about becoming a writer and open to all avenues and possibilities, your life will go in a positive direction, and opportunities will arise. Plus, the law of attraction will kick in, as positive thoughts will bring positive results.

Be steadfast

Don’t allow anyone to sway you out of your dream. Remember, it is your life; you want to live it your own way. I would also say don’t allow your own self-doubt to sway you out of your dreams. Sometimes we can be our worst enemy. Stay the course and do what you love doing, irrespective of what you think others are thinking about you. Their opinion really doesn’t matter. Honestly, some people will be envious of your non-conformity. Nonetheless, stay in your own space and in your own head. And know in your heart that you can achieve anything you put your mind to. It's that raw inner determination that will get you to where you want to be in life. Be as stubborn as you can when it comes to fulfilling your dreams on the journey you have chosen. Afterall, life is meant to live in happiness.

Famous inspiration

Louise Hay started a very successful publishing company called Hay House at the age of 62! She started it in her home in order to publish her first manuscript. She pursued her dream in her golden years without reservations. She just forged ahead and formed a very successful publishing company that has published books by such famous authors as Wayne Dyer and Cheryl Richardson.

Steve Harvey was told at the age of 10 by his teacher that he should give up his dream of being on television to make people laugh. He had written an essay about it. When he told his father, his father told him, “put the essay in your drawer and read it every day. You can be whoever you make your mind up to be.”

For years, Steve Harvey struggled to get his big break as a comedian, performing at small clubs across the country. He was homeless for several years, sleeping in his 1976 Ford when he couldn't afford hotels. However, he persevered, saying he discovered his gift for making audiences laugh during this difficult time.

In the late 1980s, he started gaining attention and appearing on TV shows like Showtime at the Apollo. His popularity grew through the 1990s as he toured as a standup comedian. Eventually, he landed a role as host of Showtime's Steve Harvey Show, which brought him national fame. In 2010, his career took off when he was asked to be the host of Family Feud. Steve was 53 years old when he got his big break.

The power of a written intention

Just as Steve Harvey wrote an essay about his goal of becoming a comedian, Jim Carrey also did something similar in line with the power of a written intention.

Before he ever achieved fame as an actor and comedian, Jim Carrey was struggling to make ends meet in the 1980s as a young comic trying to catch a break. He lived in a VW van in Los Angeles for a period, chasing his dreams but not seeing results.

According to Carrey, one day he became frustrated and decided to write himself a $10 million check dated for 10 years in the future and write the note “for acting services rendered” on it. He carried the check in his wallet as a reminder of his goal to become a star. He also envisioned himself as a famous actor, having all the luxuries that came with fame and fortune.

However, just as he had written in his intention years earlier, 1994 proved to be Carrey’s breakout year. He earned over $20 million combined just from his acting work, finally realizing his dream. To Carrey, the big check he envisioned years prior and his unwavering belief manifested his massive success. His story is a popular example demonstrating the power of a written intention.

“It is better to risk starving to death than to surrender. If you give up on your dreams, what's left?" Jim Carrey

Your legacy

It’s important to look at the whole picture of your life and what kind of legacy you want to leave. It can be something big and grand or something smaller. We don’t all have to become like Mother Teresa, helping the lepers in the world. You might want to pursue a way to help the homeless. You can volunteer in a soup kitchen. Or you might want to pursue a career in writing or acting. Or maybe you want to coach Little League or become a big brother for a fatherless child.

Whatever you decide you want to do in life, just do it. You can ask yourself these three questions:

Where am I now with my dream?

Where do I want to be with my dream in a year?

What can I do now to get to where I want to be?

Getting started now is the key to getting to where you want to be in life. My second book, The Third Road, was on the backburner for years until one day I decided I was going to finish it and self-publish it. I didn’t want to be at the mercy of a publisher, so I just forged ahead, worked day and night until I got it published myself. Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns in life. That project was not an easy task, but it was one of the most rewarding things I ever accomplished in my life. And in turn, it helped me follow my bliss.

You deserve to live a life of bliss. Keep forgiving ahead. Remember, the journey is just as rewarding as the destination.

When I was plagued with self-doubt when I started writing back in 1997, this was the first poem I wrote:

When you can feel the warmth of the sunshine

but cannot see it

Or feel the coolness of a gentle breeze

but cannot grasp it

When your dreams are just a fleeting thought that no longer matters

Remember to deeply reach within, to stretch your mind to awaken the real you,

as you say goodnight to self-doubt and the inner blindness

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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Fear and Love: They can’t Live in the Same House, by Rachel Devine

With all that is happening in the world, fear has become a dominant emotion in a lot of people's minds. From the war in Israel to the crisis at our border to the crime in our streets, and through a pandemic, fear seems to have taken over our inner world. Fear can be crippling. It can keep us locked away in our homes and stop us from living a joyful life. It could feel like you have to climb an emotional mountain to get out of your home. There is, however, a more powerful emotion called love that is much more potent than fear. Fear and love cannot coexist. It’s crucial to choose love over fear. You have the power within to turn this around.

Here is an amazing quote on this topic:

As opposites, love and fear cannot be felt at the same time. As Kübler-Ross and Kessler say, "If we're in fear, we are not in a place of love." “When we're in a place of love, we cannot be in a place of fear. Can you think of a time when you've been in both love and fear?”

Therefore, fear and love cannot live in the same house. Let's take a look at fear and love more closely.

Fear

Fear is a debilitating emotion that can be overwhelming. It all starts with worry, which turns into fear, which can turn into a petrified fear, which in turn can morph into paranoa. This is when fear is at its worse.

Fear has been classified as, false events appearing real. The purpose of this acronym is to bring the fear down to size so it is not so overwhelming. This tells us that fear is appearing in the mind, but not necessarily in reality. Sometimes our fears are much bigger than the actual thing we are fearing. It’s important to distinguish the truth about fear so it can lose its grip on you.

Franklin D. Roosevelt said, "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself."

This is a profound quote; however, fear can be very real for the person who is experiencing it. Reading loving literature can help. Perhaps some motivational quotes can help you shift from fear to love.

Love

They say love is the opposite of fear. Love is a much more powerful emotion than fear. In fact, love conquers all fears.

As the Bible tells us, There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. 1 John 4:18.

Whatever the problem, love is the answer. The emotion of love is very strong. It can move us from a state of fear into a state of love and peace. The love I am talking about, is the love of God. The love of God is powerful beyond measure. Staying in a loving state with God by your side should alleviate any fears. Make no mistake about it, you have the power to overcome any fearful obstacles in your life.

In the book, A Course in Miracles there is a famous quote at the end that says, “If you knew who walked besides you on the path that you have chosen, fear would be impossible.” The power that walks besides you is the spirit of God, which is actually within you. You have God’s Spirit within you, so fear is impossible, if you connect to that loving Spirit.

Faith

I believe love goes hand in hand with faith. God is love. I also think that you can't be in fear if you are in faith. Having faith in the higher power of your understanding will help you get out of fear. Letting go and letting God is a really great slogan that reminds us to let go of our fears and worries and hand them over to God, who will handle them. Having faith and staying in prayer will offset any fears. Praying will help you stay in the moment and in a loving state of mind, which will offset any fears. This in turn will transform your life to one of love.

Staying in the Moment

When you stay in the moment, there really is nothing to fear. The moment is a place where our fears cannot enter, because our fears usually entail thinking about past traumatic events or future worries. Staying in the here and now puts you in a safe and loving space. Remember, the fear is in your mind, so the solution is also in your mind. And remember, the only place you can connect to God is in the moment. God is not in the past or the future, but in this very moment.

The Power of Positive Thinking

There is an amazing book called "The Power of Positive Thinking" by Norman Vincent Peale. The premise is pretty simple. What you focus your attention on will have power in your life. If you are resonating with fear, then fearful situations will appear. If you are resonating with being positive and thinking of positive outcomes for the fearful situation, that is what will appear in your life. Many people underestimate the power of our thoughts to create our world. However, your thoughts have power beyond comprehension. The power of positive thinking is a reality, not some lofty title in a book.

Just envision a perfect outcome for your fearful situation and keep that focus every day in a short visual. Not only will the fear vanish, but you will also be putting energy into the world to bring about a positive result. The law of attraction then kicks in and does its job. The law of attraction is very clear, as it states, "Like attracts like," and what we think about expands. Therefore, it is dangerous to stay in a fearful state because you will inadvertently bring more things into your life to be afraid of. Stay in love, have faith, and have positive thoughts, and that will offset any fears.

In conclusion, we do live in a world of uncertainty and fear. However, how you view the world is the key to having love or fear rule your day. To put this in perspective, we know we can't stop the war in our world or the terrible situation with crime. However, we can stay in our own emotional shelter under God's tent. God’s protection is powerful. We can put ourselves in a loving and faithful emotional state in prayer.

In Psalms 46:1–6, God is our shelter and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. So we will not be afraid, even if the earth is shaken and mountains fall into the ocean depths, even if the seas roar and rage and the hills are shaken by the violence.

 Norman Vincent Peale says it all in this amazing quote:

"Change your thoughts, and you change your world." That says it all.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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The World is Changing: 7 Ways of Finding Peace in the Chaos - Rachel Devine

Let's face it, we live in a world that is facing a slew of challenges and obstacles. There is unrest, chaos, war, atrocities, political issues, inflation, supply chain issues, and the list is endless. One can put on the news for two minutes and become extremely stressed out by the doomsday headlines. If you watch the news late enough, it can seep into your dreams as nightmares. In addition to that, we have to deal with our own world of social problems that crop up from time to time. When you often feel uneasy, it's time to do a mental health check and find some peace in your life.

Let's look at 7 ways to find peace in the chaos and midst of challenging problems in the world. It is possible to overcome obstacles and chaos and find happiness.

Detachment

Detaching from the news is the first step to finding some peace in your world. Dr. Eric Berg says the number one thing you can do for our brain health is to stop watching the news! I was so surprised when I read that. Therefore, setting boundaries on how much news you watch can eradicate most of your stress. If you can turn it off for a week, you will feel happier. You might want to give that idea a try. If you are a news junkie, this can be hard to do. You might want to allow yourself maybe 15 minutes a day of news just to catch up on what's going on. I would say the earlier, the better. Any television you watch before bedtime will resonate in your subconscious mind for 8 hours. Try hard to limit your exposure to the news at night. Try instead to read a positive, uplifting book.

Stay in the moment.

When we are in the moment, we are safe and at peace. Being in this very moment shields us from lamenting over the past or worrying about a fearful future. This moment is all we have. Take advantage of the moment and really soak it in. Take a walk in nature and really focus on the trees and flowers around you. You can count each step you take. Stay in a focused conversation with a friend and really be present. Look at your surroundings and take a deep breath, centering yourself around the very moment you are in. Remember, we can't change a past moment or make a future moment go our way; we can only enjoy the very moment we are living in now. You might want to stay in the moment with some motivational quotes that bring peace to light.

Positive techniques

There are many positive techniques to bring peace. Meditation helps keep you in the moment, so you are not peering into the past or forecasting a negative future. Even if you meditate for 5 minutes, that can bring peace into your world. There are plenty of different meditation techniques online. Positive visualization is another good technique for peace. Just visualize a positive scene in your mind; maybe you want to go to a happy place in your visualization. Just picture a place you love to go to and go there in your mind. Visualize the sounds, colors, smells, and peace you feel when you are there. This will bring much peace to your day. Positive affirmations are also a good way to find peace. Just write some out on a sticky note and post them where you can see them daily. Some good ones are that I am at peace, I love myself, I am finding joy in the moment, my day will be peaceful, etc. Additionally, prayer is another positive technique. Praying keeps us in the moment and in a loving, peaceful state. The power of prayer is a big part of bringing goodness to the chaos in the world.

Rest periods

Most of us are bogged down with so much on our plate that we don't have quiet, restful time for ourselves. It's important to carve out at least 30 minutes so you can have some quiet time. You can find rest in a nap, a hot, relaxing bath or sitting in a room with fragrant candles. Doing something every day that helps you feel at peace is very important, and the message you are giving yourself is, "I am worth it!"

Gratitude list

Gratitude is at the forefront of peace. It helps us realize all we have rather than all that we don't have. It also shifts us toward a positive outlook rather than a negative one. It can direct your life in a transforming way. When you wake up each day, count your blessings. Sit and just visualize all the individual things that are positive in your life, and thank God for each one. You can also create a gratitude list each day and read it out loud to yourself. There are health benefits to being in a state of gratitude, and one important benefit is that it will bring you serenity. There is something very soulful about appreciating the little things in life.

Place of worship

Going to your favorite place of worship can bring peace beyond measure. Being in a setting where you focus for an hour on prayer brings much serenity to a world that needs more of this. Try to go to your place of worship weekly. It will bring you so much happiness and joy. Also, if you are a prayerful person, prayer is an excellent way to keep us in the moment so we can find peace. Remember, inner peace is always within you. It’s a matter of connecting to it. The more peaceful one is, the more peace will be spread across the world by consciousness through inner manifestation.

Family and friends

Try to spend more time with family and friends who are uplifting. Try to stay away from negative people who will only bring you down, and could wind up listing all the reasons you could be stressed over world issues. Get out with your friends for lunch or dinner. Visit a family member who might need to be around some positivity too. Keeping the connection with people you love will help you feel more at peace.

Mahatma Gandhi once said, "Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it."

S A Jefferson-Wright said, “Serenity is not freedom from the storm; but peace amid the storm.”

It’s crucial to find some peace in the midst of the storms in the world. We can’t stop the storms from happening, but we have these tools to shelter ourselves from the storms. These 7 steps are like putting up an umbrella to keep yourself from getting drenched.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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How to Deal with a Dysfunctional Family- Rachel Devine

Let's face it, spending time with family can be enjoyable, but at the same time, it can be toxic. All families have conflict from time to time. However, when the conflict is consistent, I believe we encroach on the label of dysfunctional family. There are certain degrees of dysfunction; some are lower-level, and some are highly extreme. The dysfunction can range from low-level manipulation to high-intensity alcoholism or drug addiction. Whatever the level of dysfunction your family resonates with, there are clear-cut solutions on how to solve family problems and conflicts.

Let's explore some solutions on how to overcome challenges and how to deal with a toxic family: 

Origin of the Stress

There are several reasons why there could be stress in a family. A recent death in the family, a divorce, alcoholism, or a chronic long-term illness These issues will cause stress in the family. Some family members might be out of sorts. At times like these, it's important to try to support each other the best way you know how. To bring this down to size, remember this: you only have control over how you behave. Sometimes we need to just sit on our hands and do nothing and just let other family members be who they are. If they are under stress, you might try to be supportive. You will be much happier.

Tyrants

There are some families that have real issues with members that may be narcissistic, manipulative, gossipy, or just plain troublemakers. Recognizing that a family member always seems to push your buttons is a sign that you might have to set strong boundaries during a family gathering. Perhaps you can distance yourself from the tyrant family member and hang around those who are positive and nurturing. The more distance you put between you and that person, the better. Also, sometimes what we judge in others is actually something within ourselves. Look honestly at yourself and make sure your side of the street is clean. In other words, keep an honest account of your own actions, and if you need to make an attitude adjustment, now would be the time to do it. 

Divorce

Being divorced with children is always problematic during holidays, as usually one ex-spouse has the children on a certain holiday and the other ex-spouse is all alone. Divorce brings an array of dysfunction, not only for the parents but also for the children. There always seems to be a tug at the heart when it comes to divorced children. My best advice would be to keep clear communication with your ex-spouse and try to keep things amicable so you have some negotiating power on days that you want to see the children more. Having a wedge between you and your ex-partner is only going to make matters worse. You might want to enlist a life coach or therapist to help.

Holiday gatherings

Holiday gatherings can be so beautiful if all family members cooperate and are on their best behavior. However, that is not always the case. In the case of alcoholism, you may want to just totally ban alcohol during your gathering. It might seem like a harsh move, but I find that some people can get intoxicated at parties and ruin it for everyone else with obnoxious behavior. I never had alcohol at any of my family functions as my sons were growing up, and honestly, no one missed it at all.

Silence

There may be a family member who will not talk to you because of an argument or disagreement. A friend of mine has an adult son who would not talk to her for a year after she separated from his father. Her solution was to just call him every day and leave a message saying, "I am here for you if you need me." I love you so much." He would occasionally pick up the phone but would be distant and cold. Finally, after a year, he came around and brought her flowers for Mother's Day and a card that said, "Thanks for always being there for me." It is heartbreaking when an adult child, or any family member, refuses to talk and is pretty much estranged. I like my friend's solution of leaving voicemails and telling her son how much she is there for him and loves him.

Gratitude

I always find that, at the heart of any kind of conflict, gratitude is the equalizer. When you can stop and be grateful for your family, looking at them with love rather than disdain, the situation always improves. An attitude of gratitude is a gift. Waking up each day and counting your blessings will set your day off on a clear, positive path. Looking at your family with gratitude will also set you off on a positive path. Sometimes when we change our attitude, the situation changes because of the positive energy we put into it. A positive energy flow will bring positive results. It can literally transform your life. It is better to feel blessed and thankful than like a victim. The benefits of gratitude is rewarding and will literally change your viewpoint. And saying a prayer before the family gathering could also work wonders. And of course, forgiveness sets the table for peace. Resentments can only build when there is unforgiveness.

As the great Norman Vincent Peale said, "Change your thoughts, and you change your world."

And this quote says it all with such wisdom and clarity:

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, and confusion into clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend." Melody Beattie

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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How to Overcome Challenges at Work - Rachel Devine

There will always be challenges in life, obstacles to overcome, and barriers to what we want to achieve. When we have challenges in the workplace, life can be miserable. We spend a third of our lives at work, so it's important to create a peaceful work environment for yourself.

Let's look at ways to overcome challenges at work. I will show you ways on how to overcome obstacles, with some inner resolve and some problem solving techniques in business.

Heavy workload

Having a heavy workload seems to be on top of the list of challenges at work. You might be at a point where the work is piling up. This really puts a person in a bad situation because, on the one hand, you want to handle the workload, and on the other hand, you don't want to be taken advantage of. Try to break the work into smaller, more manageable tasks. Also, double check your work, because sometimes a heavy workload can reap mistakes. It's important to keep total focus on your job, so avoid getting on a personal call or being on the internet during work hours. Keep total focus on the job.

Set boundaries between your work and someone else's job. You can point out to your manager that you are happy to do the extra work but would need help delegating some of the work if you can't meet deadlines. Sometimes just bringing the situation to your manager could help offset some of the work to someone that can help you feel happy about the situation.

Disagreements with co-workers

Stay calm during stressful times. Enlist the advice of a co-worker you trust who might be able to give you some insights into the office culture. It's important to have harmony in the workplace. However, sometimes conflict does arise. I always found it important to keep my head on the job at hand and not socialize too much at work, because that is when disagreements or conflicts can arise. The challenges we face at work can be hard to cope with. If there is a disagreement, clear professional communication is important to clear the air. Keep away from any arguments that involve character attacks and stick with the work issues. Always maintain a professional attitude.

It's a good idea to take a break or go to lunch to mull over the situation before responding. And sometimes it's better not to respond at all and just let the conflict dissolve on its own. And be very careful of email exchanges. Always keep them professional. If you get an email that sounds rude, do not respond with rudeness. It is better to just respond in a professional manner. Remember, a second of revengeful exchange can cost you a lot of heartache. It’s better to move on and let it go.

Lack of growth opportunities

Look at your skills and see where you can add a skill or two in order to be eligible for advancement. Speak to your manager about your growth path and let your manager know you are interested in advancement opportunities. See if your manager can guide you on possible opportunities. If advancement in your company is not feasible, you might want to look into other companies for growth opportunities. Sometimes making a change can make all the difference in a job that has no growth. You want to empower yourself to transform your life to one in which you love. Look at other job opportunities that might be more fulfilling.

Confidence level

Keep your confidence level high by doing things that enhance your self-image. This includes affirmations. I used to post affirmations around my desk to help me keep my focus on positive thoughts. Some affirmations may include, yes, I can do it, I am a great worker, I will be promoted, or I love my job. You can post them where only you can see them. These affirmations are a clear reminder that you can do whatever you put your mind to. Also, state of mind is everything. If you start to view your job as one you really love, when you come to work, things will be different.

Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

Finding Peace

A good way to find peace is to meditate in your free time. Let yourself have some quiet time for reflection. In this reflection, you may want to focus on the positive aspects of your life. Being grateful is so important to our mental state. Looking at what is good in your life may offset what may not be good. Also, it is good to journal about the work situation. It's good to get it out in writing and see what transpires in your writing. If you can, take a walk at lunchtime to clear your head and give yourself a well-needed break.

At the end of the day, it's important to remember that each day brings a different perspective. How you view your workplace has a big impact on what you see.

Another great quote is by Norman Vincent Peale. He said, "Change your thoughts, and you change your world."

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff - Choose Peace over Conflict - Rachel Devine

Life is too short to become stressed over every little thing other people do that we don't like. Remember, you can't control anyone but yourself. When someone irritates you, remember that you have the choice of how to respond. Typically, we respond with a reactive angry one, because the other person hit a nerve. What if we took a moment to just breathe and decided that we didn't really want to give this person the power to ruin our day?

Let's look at some techniques to choose peace over conflict.

Count to Ten

When you encounter someone you know is hard to deal with and they go into a rant that sets you off, stop and count to ten, leave the room or take some deep breaths. Taking a few seconds to compose yourself will help you have more control and, in turn, be able to have more control over your emotions and how you respond. Try not to react, rather, respond with a level head. This is key to keeping your cool during conflict.

Take your power back

When we allow others to ruin our day because they are rude to us, we have handed over our power to the other person. Picture it this way. The other person has a remote control and presses a button that says, ruin their day, or a button that says, make them angry or make them stressed. Don't allow others to push your buttons. Take the remote control back and in turn you will be in control. Remember, you always have the choice of how you will respond to others' rudeness. You always have the choice not to react in an angry manner. Remember, they are not ruining your day, you are choosing to let them ruin your day.

Detach with love

Detachment is the key to serenity. You might live with someone who is totally obnoxious and difficult to live with. The key is to detach from the person with love. In other words, observe what is happening from an outsider's standpoint rather than get emotionally involved in the encounter. Just act as an observer of what is happening and then react from that state of mind. You will be able to be more rational in walking away from the conflict. Remember, if you leave the room, the person has no one to fight with. This will give you peace. Don't focus on the person who is hard to live with; rather, focus on your own life and detach with love. It’s important to recognize ways to overcome the obstacles that come your way in order to be happy with your life.

Daily peaceful techniques

Doing a daily meditation will help you get more centered in a peaceful state of mind. You can do a number of different meditations, from being in your happy place, to listening to a peaceful meditation from YouTube. Perhaps you want to get quiet in a room alone and meditate with peaceful music and add some scented candles to the mix. Taking a nice relaxing bath will also help you feel more at peace.

Forgiveness is an act of self-love

Forgiveness is the key to getting rid of resentment and bitterness. Our resentments usually cause an irrational response to someone pushing our buttons. Forgiveness is an act of self-love. When you forgive the other person, you are releasing the venom that is going through your veins in the form of bitterness. Releasing that bitterness will release you from the stress that causes health issues. Also, ask yourself: Will this conflict matter tomorrow, a month or a year from now? Sometimes what is important in the heat of the moment, will not be important tomorrow. A good slogan many use is, "How important is it?" Ask yourself that during the conflict, you might find that it isn’t important at all, in the scheme of your life. This is a great slogan to help you let go and forgive.

In conclusion, with a little awareness, you can become peaceful again if you take your power back, detach with love, and forgive the person you are in conflict with. Remember, this person is your greatest teacher. Those who can push our buttons have much to teach us. You might one day look back on your life and realize the person who pushed your buttons taught you more than anyone else.

I want to end with this great quote by Dr. Wayne Dyer,“If you have the choice of being right or being kind, choose kind.”

Find purpose, peace and discover the power within with my book, The Third Road.

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

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Your Actions Speak Louder than Words! Rachel Devine

The old adage advises that "actions speak louder than words." This adage holds a great deal of wisdom. While people may convey one message verbally, their behaviors, conduct, and decisions often provide a truer measure of character, values, and motives. If you really want to know what the other person's motives are, don't listen to their words, but look at what they do. Examining actions yields true insight beyond what any declaration of words will convey. In fact, some might say words are not as important as actions are in many life circumstances.

Let’s explore this concept of, your actions speak louder than words.

Words Fall Short

People have a tendency to project an idealized self to others that aligns with what they wish were true or know sounds noble. In other words, their ego is playing into the situation. Keeping a steady eye on your words is key to aligning them with your actions. However, aligning conduct with projected character requires self-awareness and effort. Talk is cheap without a walk to back it up.

As leadership expert Simon Sinek noted, "Leadership is not about the words you say. It's about the actions you take." Actions demonstrate true leadership.

Personal Action

If you are telling yourself, I will one day start a business, lose weight, or write a book, and you are not taking steps to fulfill these dreams, then you would also fall into the category of a person who is not putting action behind words. Words are easy, it’s the action that is more of a challenge. The real power comes when you align your words and actions together. It really will help you feel more empowered when you become a person who keeps your word to yourself and others. It is especially important to be a role model for your children. Therefore, it is critical to really look at what you say versus what you do and see if you can get them to line up together.

Actions vs Words

There are countless examples of how individuals' actions contradict their words. Here are a few examples:

• Politicians espouse concern for the downtrodden but further the interests of their donors.

• Social activists condemn pollution but don't curb their own consumption.

• Celebrities promote a positive image, while some are guilty of intense dysfunction.

• Some proclaim, "I am on a diet." And the next day, order a burger and fries.

• A boyfriend may say, "I love you," but not really spend much time with you.

• A parent may tell their child not to lie, and then in the course of another conversation tell a white lie.

Remember, children are more impacted by our actions, not our words. And integrity does reap trust and moral values, which parents want to instill in their children. A closer look at this type of behavior tells us that some people are just not aware of the inconsistent way they act and some prioritize their own agenda when given the choice to walk the talk. But alignment between actions and words determines integrity. Awareness is the key to change our bad habits into good ones. There are plenty of ways to transform your life to one that helps you become more in synch.

Benefits of Aligning Words with Actions

1. Reveal true character: actions reflect values, compassion, priorities, and substance.

2. Builds trust: saying one thing while doing another destroys trust. Alignment demonstrates dependability and promotes trust.

3. Enables correction: Catching inconsistencies provides the opportunity to realign values and conduct.

4. Improves credibility: talking purposefully and acting upon it brings credability to your character.

5. Lights the path: When words and deeds synergize, you're heading in the right direction, and it helps your spirit grow with grace.

6. It is also beneficial in where you work, in order to get good reviews and promoted.

As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say." Before speaking loftily, ensure your feet are on the ground. Character is constructed step by step by our words and actions.

Louise Hay tells us:

"The point is to take the actions that match your words."

I order to create the future you would be proud of, it’s so important to be aware of how your actions line up with what you say.

The trust bestowed upon leaders, role models, friends, and influencers arises in large part from the integrity of their principles demonstrated on a day-to-day basis on their actions aligning with their words. While words may inspire, actions forge lasting impact. Consistency in both words and actions creates trust. Be a person who walks the talk rather than talks the walk.

I will conclude with this priceless quote, which I just love.

"Better done than said." 
Frank Sonnenberg

Rachel Devine is the author of The Third Road, a book that gently guides one to the power within and their purpose in life, and Lessons from the Needle in a Haystack, a spiritual book on dating and relationships.

Devine Intervention - The Healing Center website.

Life Coaching available

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